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Have you ever been so angry to the point where you lash out and bluntly expose your emotions about how you feel at that particular moment and somehow after few minutes or an hour you begin to feel regret or guilt? Not for speaking your mind but for the way and manner in which you put, it is could be in a harsh tone or a loud outburst. This has happened to me in different occasions but often times my outburst to speaking out bluntly whenever I am angry has been justified because they were necessary. I can only count once or twice where I have had to go back to apologize to my colleagues just because I was loud in my reaction to their allegations or whatever got me angry in the first place. But often times, I have come to find out that being blunt and expressing your emotions to anger can be Justified especially when the receiving party is being overly condescending.
Back in our University days, there were times when we had to do group work presentations for different courses. It was a common practice where the lecturers will group you unanimously with your course mates then you would have to come together, carry out the assignments, practice and be ready to present the seminar paper on a due date. There was this time we had an assignment where I was grouped with some of my course mates that I am not familiar with or I do not have a personal relationship with, then I noticed there was a lady who had this personality of overdoing things and claiming that she was good in everything. Hence, she would literally undermined our contributions at every meetings.
It got a point where her obnoxious and "oversabi" character had become too tedious to bear. It got so bad that everyone experienced how she would interrupt people mid sentence, she would dismiss ideas without properly considering why and how the suggestions can develop the seminar paper. One thing that even got me pissed was the fact that she had a way off taking credit for suggestions other people produce by systematically rephrasing the whole thing.
After the third meeting, it became so infuriating there I decided to confront her right in front of the group, there I spelt out how condescending she has been in both her tone and manner. I knew I was so blunt because somehow it had bottled up in me and I just had to let it out. While all these happened I felt Justified and free because I had spoken my mind and somehow I had spoken for everyone in the group.
Sometimes, what we consider as anger or outburst could just simply be a means of putting things back in their due places because right after this incident we will notice that the lady began to act more mature and open to every suggestions. Everybody mattered in the group and we cannot just allow one person to bring in this unity and act like people's opinion do not matter.
In conclusion, personally I think it's okay to be angry but when it is bad is when we start making excuses for anger issues that lead to destruction of properties and lives.
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IT IS VERY IMPORTANT FOR US TO ALWAYS MANAGE OUR ANGER ISSUE BECAUSE IF WE FAIL TO IT WILL LAND US TO PROBLEM
You are right and sometimes it's okay to let it out rather than bottle it in
Yea dear
Thank you
I like the way you concluded, it's not bad to be angry but when it comes what we do matters. I noticed that once my kids are hungry they become angry easily. Therefore I make sure I load them with food appropriately.
Lol.... That's a good approach to anger to, finding the root cause and satisfying it. Thanks
That "over sabi" character can be very irritating justifying your anger and making her know how you felt was good too, at least she would learn to respect others' opinions too
Abi ooooo.... Thank you