Who would have thought the decision I made that day, would have such a great impact? I never thought that.
I was in last grade in college, it was my final external exams, my joy knew no bounds. My classmates jubilated also as we were all happy, eagerly looking forward to the next phase of our lives.
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Thelma then was my competitor, we both struggled for the first position always—so alternatively each of us got the first position. We weren’t usually close, but for some reasons we became close after the external exams. My parents were going to organize a mini party, inviting our neighbors and families, to congratulate me on being done with college. My family is big on celebrating the tiniest achievements, so this was no exception.
I invited Thelma, my friends, classmates around and they were so happy to tag along. The mini party started in the afternoon, everybody ate and drank to their satisfaction, pictures to keep memories alive were taken..that day was the best day of my life.
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Soon I took entrance exams into higher institution and put in one university in the Northern part of Nigeria as my first choice of school because a lot of persons enrolled there, but my dad objected. He said he didn’t want me to school so far from home and in the North even, I thought if I tried my best, I’d be able to change his mind even if he was adamant.
Sadly all my pleas were futile, I was so infuriated that my dad would not let me make my choices, my body temperature rose so high with my heart racing. I told him how he didn't love me at all, how he was selfish and that I didn’t love him, I said hurtful words to him that cuts my heart into pieces whenever I remember them
After I talked out of anger, I stormed out of the house even though it was pouring down heavily, I just didn’t care. By the time my family knew I left the house under the rain, they began searching for me even when they didn’t know where exactly I was. In the process of searching for me in a patch of land close by, my dad got bitten by a snake and was rushed to the hospital.
Fortunately, my dad survived because it wasn't a poisonous one. I felt bad for the things I had said to him out of anger when all he wanted for me was the best, If something had happened to him, I would never have forgiven myself.
**Afterwards, I gained admission into the university chosen for me by my dad.
I apologized to him again and again I’m so grateful he is alive. Ever since then, I learned to always make sure to chew my words before spitting them out, no matter how angry I might feel at that moment.
My advice for anyone who is emotionally immature, is to pause before taking drastic actions and saying impulsive words. Try to process emotions before reacting negatively or find coping mechanisms.
Thank you very much for reading.
Saying hurtful words out of anger is one thing a lot of us fall victim of but saying sorry and regretting these words in the face of those we said it to, is what not many do so I think it's all good on your end.
Thank goodness dad is alive and well, I'm sure the school he chose for you wasn't so bad either.
I wish never to hurt anyone with my words again.
Thank you very much 🙏
Thank you very much 🙏
Saying hurtful words because am angry that I have been able to learn to manage because words once spoke can never be unspoken again and it will leave a scar forever
You are so right, one has to be careful with their tongue.