“Anger is the devil’s child. It is one of the seven deadly sins and the most dangerous emotion.” These were my mom’s exact words when my anger issues reached their vertex. I don't exactly remember when I started exhibiting anger issues, but my mom says it started when I got back from boarding school. According to her, I was a sweet and innocent boy who listened to her and every other person. However, I went to boarding school and came back differently. I’d get angry and raise my voice over the slightest irritation. What exactly happened? How did the sweet little boy change to be so aggressive? Was it puberty playing its part? Did I learn such a bad attitude in boarding school? Whatever the reason may be, the fact remains that my anger issues were escalating with each passing day.
I wasn’t oblivious to my anger issues. I wanted someone to help me. I knew I was broken and needed help. As always, my mom came through for me. I’ve always been a book lover, so I guess she figured the best way to get rid of my anger issues was through a book. The title of the book is; Swallow Irritation Before Irritation Swallows you. On the cover of the book is a man who looked really angry, old, and his veins were pretty visible. “If you don’t want to be like this man, read this book,” She said. The book was written by an Indian author and it really helped to shape who I am today. Because of how chill and easygoing I am, when I tell people that I used to struggle with serious anger issues, they disagree with me, thinking I am lying. I have been working on my anger issues for years now and developed coping mechanisms. Instead of getting angry, I either walk out or count to a certain number before responding. If it is online, I simply go offline.
However, some people are annoying that they get on our nerves. No matter how hard we try to avoid them, they just keep coming with full force. Week three of Sci-Fi multiverse prompt is about anger management. Have you ever been in a situation where you had to pour out your heart because someone made you angry?
One thing about me is that I dislike people who make jest of other people’s insecurities. All they do is rub your flaws on your faces. Words are powerful and not everyone can bear certain words. Words have a way of getting to people, which is why I always like to be careful with what I say to others. But you see those who joke with insecurities? They are the worst! They say things without considering the psychological or emotional consequences. In my school, one of my coursemates fits perfectly into this box- her job is to look at people and point out flaws about their body. “You have pimples covered all over your face, so something about it.” “Why are you too short?” “You are too fat for this dress, give it to someone else.” These are the kinds of things she says.
She had said these things to me multiple times, but I always kept my calm, until one day when I just couldn't hold it in anymore. I lost my temper and insulted her intelligence. I told her that only people with a very low IQ would behave in such a manner. Although I felt a bit remorseful, I didn't regret my actions. Sometimes, this is exactly what people like her need - a wake-up call to put some sense into them. Hopefully, she learns from the experience and becomes wiser. At least a bit wiser.
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I think most people struggled with anger and how well to manage it. Luckily for you, your mom knew exactly how to help you overcome that anger that was consuming you from within.
I had my phase and it was really nothing to talk about. Once I’m angry I don’t care who is in my front, I tell them what’s on my mind. But I learnt that no matter how angry I am, I have to respect people, especially my elders.
I hope that girl learns from what you’ve told her, although it is harsh but like you said, that’s what some people need sometimes to learn to do better.
Thanks for sharing this with us, love. I really admire your mom in the ways she solve problems, unique and really considerate. 🤭