Wow... You know it happens to me... that I lost so many people, they suddenly neglect me because they don't like me, respect me and such things from childhood so as adult I am mostly alone and now, alone but you know not very lonely.
You keep distance with people, its better... I feel. But ofcourse, some people are gems(: and its other way round, some people come to you when your out of touch with them and your like, they respect me!! So nice(:
But yes, not keeping expectation on others is good stuff. and and... don't become they fans... My dad I was huge believer on him but when I evaluate his qualities, as a person I don't respect him, he is not like what others think him to be...
Its ex, but a big one for me,
Why, I respected my dad?... it beats me, I believed in him, I thought he is great, but way he treats you, thinks of you and double standards and nonsense, wrong opinions, impractical and harsh views and comments...
Same with entire family... when this happens you feel entire world is fake(:
But you move on... I got others who display faith, belief on me and my worth... and it uplifts me... since I keep distance but maintain communication, it work out...
I used to feel scared, I will lose relationship, people will abandon me, but I only don't go after that now... anyway family will keep saying no one will be friends with you, their associate will stay away from you...
and its not like its not true, as I faced isolation in school, ragged and stayed away from... still ... as adult that I am out of the situation and mention this, I don't know others see it differently... not like as a blackmark.
I think they see and acknowledge that my pain is real and show empathy and that means a lot... those who don't block me right away. Unfortunately family can't and I still ...anyway...
So, please don't become fan of someone that you fail to see them... also have trust in people who display some worth, not like blind trust just normal trust, if you know or believe in person, but don't get carried away...
Anyway...
Just be yourself, that’s the hack to it.