Making the focus on the good parts and leaving the rest to blow away into the wind is one of the healthier things to do, in my opinion. Nobody forgets, but, not letting it eat you up inside is better all the way around.
My life has been exceptionally good, but, there have been people in it that weren't and I have to wonder sometimes if that isn't the best they could manage? Not that it makes it right, but, it would make me feel better if I knew these things weren't always with malicious intent.
Your mother with her cooking skills. I am glad you have that.