Im late for bed tonight, stayed downstairs a little longer to sit with hubby. Hes sleeping downstairs after his operation. Its been another hard day, 2nd day done 7 weeks 5 days to go. I might just break my promise to myself to no alcohol for this year. I really picked the wrong year to avoid Alcohol.
Here he is showered and clean clothes
Hubby is still in pain and uncomfortable but only when he moves, that could be down to him having staples in. Roll on the 9th when they come out. Me and my daughter are having to do just about everything for him. I have to help him stand then sit again, he can walk to the toilet but that's as far as he goes.
I helped hubby upstairs for a shower and change of clothes, can't have him stinking up the house. and im having no one say im not looking after him even though i am ready to fall with my own pains im still pushing myself, i can collapse when hes better. When im having an OK day we do more on bad days we have to get by. Getting his clothes off, getting him into the shower giving him a shower then drying and dressing him nearly killed me. There was a lot of moaning going on in my bedroom but that was because the 2 of us are both disabled and putting those tight knee length socks back on his feet nearly killed us both.
Once he was dried and dressed Nichola took him downstairs as i needed a hot shower to ease my own pains, i also had a good cry, don't want him hearing me or he will worry.
Im doing my hardest to keep myself moving and keeping hubby's mood up, with him stuck in the same position for 6 - 8 and being able to do anything could quite easily deopress him, i know how much it depresses me. We are watching our favourite shows on TV, we are talking and laughing. Hopefully we get through this together.
Im lying in bed, took my pain meds, wrapped my knee with pain patches and hoping i sleep better. I don't want to take anything to make me sleep as it will make me dozy the next day, i have to try and stay alert for hubby.
We will probably look back on this time and laugh....or cry.
Ohhhh, man. Are you both being 'tough' for the other? That'll work for a while.
It's got to be just really hard. Really, really hard.
Here we have county visiting nurses (not all are actual RNs, they are helpers) that will come by three days a week to help a person shower. I just happen to know. It's a free part of our senior health care, the thought being that it's a lot more cost effective than having people in a skilled facility.
Do you guys have anything like that? It'd be a real help.
I am finding it really very hard in every way, my body hurts and it's not helping my mental health as i am drained.
I may have to phone our social care and see if i can get some help but can't see hubby wanting a stranger in to help him shower.
That is a lot to bear! I hope it gets better day by day. Just focus on as much health and comfort and enjoyment as you can within your abilities each day.
It's so great that you are watching shows and finding things to laugh about. That sounds like a really great approach!
Thank you for your lovely reply, We are doing what's important other things will have to wait until we are better. :)
Please feel free to cry and ease the pains but don't allow depression get in...
Do not take alcohol as you promised.
Please, stay healthy and safe for hubby.
This is a phase you are passing through
You definitely would pull through
Thank you the cry helped, i think i will be doing that again. So much pain, Im sticking to my no alcohol goal I couldn't handle the next days troubles. :)