I didn't know sat was a british turn of phrase, happy to have learnt something :)
thank you so much, your comments here have really meant a lot to me.
It's necessary, the pretense that all is well. We survive, thanks to the pretense. If we tell ourselves every day that it's ok, eventually, we will be ok... right???
I think you've got it exactly, especially at times like this <3
"The cat was sat on the kitchen table" - it took some getting used to, for me, reading Brit English. Maybe it isn't only Brits who conjugate "sit" that way - but if I see it in prose, I think "Must be written by a Brit." Americans say "The cat sat," or the cat "was sitting," but not "was sat."
And now, back to the belief (pretense, intentional thinking) that all is well and all shall be well!