And so it begins...the world finally intrudes on the lovely universe you have fashioned for your child. So much of what you describe about school is irrational. The teacher's concern that your daughter solves problems in her own way
she often solve the problems using her own methods
The teacher should be delighted that your child offers original solutions--this is the essence of creativity, the essence of human ingenuity. Unfortunately, school is not so much about encouraging as it is about training children to 'fit in'.
I went through this as a child and found school so very boring until I reached high school and could begin to assert myself. I tried to spare my children this regimentation but wasn't very successful as I changed schools several times.
In a way it's good for your daughter to run into opposition. This will be as much a part of her life as anything else. With your help she will learn to cope with the rigidity without bending, she will learn to accommodate a not entirely obliging environment. You will support her at home and reinforce her great qualities. Though you are probably right to plan on placing her eventually in a more encouraging, productive environment.
I wish you well with this challenge. Watching our children's battles/struggles is so much harder than going through them ourselves.
BTW: The Schultüte and skirt are precious. They remind me of the lovely treasures my mother would sew for me when I was a child.
There you pointed out the core issues! You hit the nail in the head.
Their most concern is to train children to fit in...putting children in the same mold and squezee them until they made the "right" form.
Schools killed creativity of children and their passion towards learning this way.
When I listened to the kindergarten teacher during the meeting session, I actually didn't have any concern to hear all the "flaws", because I didn't take them as "flaws" at all.
I had another worry...
She might be different from the mainstream and would probably give the teacher a hard time (which also means the same thing for her actually), but that didn't make her a bad seedling.
She might be mistaken as a disobedient and a difficult pupil, but not a bad seedling.
She could get me on my nerves too sometimes LOL, and it could be overwhelming to have much discussion with her and to try finding proper answer to all her questions, but isn't it what's supposed to be our job as educator anyway?
We shouldn't kill children's curiousity.
And I do understand how difficult it is to provide a character's adjusted education in a school, that's why I think homeschooling or something like montessori concept could be offered as a solution.
Unfortunately, montessori was not our option cos it's just too far away from us. And homeschooling is not an option either in Germany.
Austria would have been an option for us, of only the life there is not as expensive as in Germany LOL.
If we want to move out and give up the well paid job prior the retirement age,
then we need to find the place which is not too expensive 😜.
Thank you :). She appreciates it so much too :-D. Have a nice day...
Both my children attended Montessori for 2 years of nursery, and kindergarten! They loved it and it did help them to grow as independent, intelligent individuals.
Good luck on the road ahead.♥️ Above all, stay positive with your daughter and try to give her a positive attitude toward school and teachers even though you are dismayed. Enjoy these years ahead. It all goes by so very quickly.