Why is my child scared or worried? What is wrong with him/her? What is anxiety?
If you look up the meaning of the word 'worried' or 'anxious' you can now understand there can be a feeling of the unknown, a feeling that they do not know how something will play out - How will they do in a test? Will people accept them? Will someone speak to them at a party etc.
It can be very upsetting for children to feel anxious. What can you as a parent do?
1 in 8 children suffer from anxiety and this can cause things like missing school, not having friends, not having any interests in social gatherings and keeping themselves away from situations and people.
There is not one solution that will fit all children and you as a parent will know your child and in time figure out the best way to help them deal with their anxiety.
Reassuring your child
In your mind you think that if you tell your child that everything is going to be ok, or you are there they do not have to be afraid, it will solve the problem. This does not always work, because even though your child would love to listen and respond to your reassurance, his/her brain is not allowing it at that moment, because in his/her mind things are really bad and their emotional side of their brain has taken over.
You will have to take another approach than just reassuring your child. Try the following:
Help your child to take a few deep breaths. Reassure them that you understand why they are feeling anxious and there is nothing wrong with feeling that way. If your child is calmer you can now help him/her to find a solution to the problem that caused the anxiety in the first place. You as a parent must not feel guilty and feel that it is your fault that your child experiences anxiety if you are the one trying to help them.
Tell them that it is fine to worry
Do not be that parent that makes your child feel as thought something is wrong with them. Explain to them that to worry about things are normal, and we all do it.
But the secret is working through the worrying and not letting it stop you to do the things your are suppose to do or miss out on things that you can enjoy.
Sometimes we just have to except that we will worry about certain things and understand that we cannot always control a situation or do something about it and just accept the outcome.
Create some worry time
Some children will be paralysed by worrying or anxiety and will not be able to carry on with daily tasks. It is important that your child understand that you cannot spend your whole life worrying.
You can create a special time during the day for 10-15 minutes in which your child can write down all their fears and anxieties and then you can discuss it afterwards and try and find some solutions for the problems.
Help them to stop asking "what if" questions
Help your child to stop concentrating on the negative scenarios of "what if". We cannot foresee the future but thinking about every single thing that can go wrong will make anybody anxious. Rather help your child to think "what is". What is the reality? What is it I would like to do? What is it I like about doing a specific activity?
Stop avoiding all situations that causes your child anxiety. Help them to face their fears one step at a time and see for themselves that things will work out and if something does not work the way they thought it would, they can deal with it.
Avoiding all situations is not going to help your child to grow stronger and more self-assured and positive so that they can face their problems.
Work out a step by step plan in which your child will be able to deal with anxiety. Different steps will work for different children
Another great discussion. The same issue applies, though. Portions of your writing do not appear to be original. Your text appears to originate from the following article that was posted sometime in July 5, 2020: How To Help An Anxious Child - Child Anxiety Treatment
I have listed an example below, but there are others. Are you the author of this article?
I notice that you pulled this writing from the same author, mc_owoblow, as you did in your last article on academic pressures.
This is the 3rd or 4th time this page have taken my writing and used it as their own on their page. Yes this is mine. I put it on steemit about 3 years back already. We have had this problem before where I showed them I wrote my article before it came out on a specific page on the internet
They are not the original author , They took my steemit post from three years ago https://steemit.com/steemiteducation/@alishi/rrxln-mom-i-am-worried-how-can-you-help-an-anxious-child
This is really good. I have a 5 year old that is really anxious and the what if's are constant. We worry about her when she gets older as she's a worrier like mammy. I might try the worry time out. Thanks
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This is such an awesome help! As a person who constantly feels anxious, I hope that more people become more aware of the tips you've elaborated here. Simply telling them that "it's fine" is very calming.