*The real love transcends boundaries, it is not selfish, it is honest and free. Although currently, some people might confuse love with need, and they often can say: “Honey, I need you …”.
The Human being always seeks acceptance, and sometimes we can translate it into “finding love”, because if you recognize me as a living being, respects my emotions and accepts me as I am, that's mean that you connected with my true essence demonstrating a form of love: "I empathize with you because I recognize you, I value and enjoy your presence”.
But we forget that in order to go out to look for love, we must first find it within us, because we are the reflection of what is stored inside us.
In the next post, I will tell you what it means to me to have a couple, and what I personally recommend doing when you make the conscious and mature decision to share your life with someone.
Identifying your emotions.
It is wise and prudent to examine ourselves in order to know in depth our emotions, to verify if we have healed the wounds of the past because they mold us and make us the people we are today. If we decide to grow up with open wounds, we will go through the life distilling and reflecting pain and anger towards all the people who surround us, and unconsciously we will try to make them pay for all the damage that others did to us. Everywhere we go, our eyes will only see the negative side of life. To avoid this the key is forgiveness, forgiveness frees us from the chains of the past.
When we decide to forgive, we are not only healing with the oppressor, but we are healing ourselves from one of the most toxic emotions that any human being can experience: Resentment. The negative emotions are the origin of physical illnesses, as they become the voice of what emotions cannot express by themselves.
Forgive your parents, friends, siblings, acquaintances, ex-partners, relatives etc., no one is born with a manual to be a perfect human being, we all have flaws because we come molded by the mistakes of our ancestors therefore our challenge must be to live day by day aware of who we are, what we do, where we want to go and what legacy we want to leave in our passage through this earth.
Keep in mind that negative feelings have their origin in yesterday, because no one can feel anger for something that will happen tomorrow. Therefore, think for a moment, what will you gain by harboring within yourself feelings of rage, anger, arrogance, revenge, bitterness, impotence, and hate for situations that happened in the past, and therefore you can no longer change? Why drag situations that hinder your present and overshadow your future? And the worst of all is: if you meet the ideal person, and even if this person is your soulmate, your past will not allow you to see the wonderful human being that you have in front of you.
That is why I apply the following 5 actions: self-assessment, identification of emotions, recognition, forgiveness and moving forward.
Be aware of what we want to find.
The Nature is alive and wise because it knows how the systems that are part of it work. In the same way, the humans must know what we want in our lives, what we are looking for and if it is truly in tune with what we want to find. Do we want to find a partner to share our life with, or are we looking for someone who is willing to carry our entire complex inner and outer world with us? Are we really ready to give in even when the conditions appear to be less favorable, but out of love and respect we must do it?
You should evaluate your possible emotional voids to be aware of what you really want to find on your way.
When we decide to share our life with another person, we are acquiring a great responsibility because we are assuming the commitment to be fair, respectful, and loyal to someone with whom we initially have no connection, has another belief system, has a past, customs, etc. When we have someone by our side it is to admire, love, elevate and support them, not just expecting something more from that person, but also aware that in order to receive we must know how to give and always keep in mind that if we want harmony in the relationship there must be clear and sincere communication based on respect.
Stay by the side of someone you value as a human being with his or her virtues and defects, someone you admire and feel proud of for what that person really is and not for what he or she can give you. Do not try to fill emotional voids through your romantic relationships, because in the long run it will generate more chaos and deepens the voids, and a relationship is about that go hand in hand to support each other to live in a harmonious balance.
Visualize a scale, the more weight you add to one side the more unbalanced the scale will be, due to the force of the weight you will reach the breaking point. When you live as a couple, remember that you are one. You become the wings of a great bird, and if one of the wings is damaged that bird will not be able to take a wonderful flight.
Sharing life as a couple.
If you do not love, respect and value yourself, no one will do it for you. Therefore, you will never be able to receive the affection that you are looking for in your couple.
Knowing that you are part of someone's life is a truly beautiful feeling that is worth fighting for and keeping in mind:
- Your partner deserves respect and appreciation for whom they really are.
- Constant and open communication is the ideal way to maintain a healthy relationship.
- The manifestations of love and affection will never be synonymous of weakness, they strengthen the bonds for eternity.
- The truth always sets us free and allows us to walk more upright in this life.
- Become your partner's support based on loyalty and integrity.
- Your partner is your complement, someone for whom you must be willing to give and receive love.
- Laugh and celebrate life because joy and gratitude open the door to prosperity in the home.
- Make love as many times as you want and without looking at the dates on the calendar, because love raises the energies and heals our body, both physically and emotionally.
- Take care of yourselves and value yourselves at all times, because this will help you grow in this race called life.
- True love will always prevail above all things.
My final words:
The human beings are very complex specie with qualities and vicissitudes, but within the inner awakening called maturity, we must focus on finding our true essence and life purpose in order to have the ability to share our day-to-day life in a healthy and harmonious way with someone who also has their own awakening.
And remember this simple phrase: “You don't “need” anyone by your side to be really happy, what you must do is learn to share your inner happiness with someone, so that together you can establish the solid foundations of a wonderful and loving relationship”.
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