The reason why people get better at handling a difficult situation is dependent on how much time and energy they've put in, plus the experience and failure they have accrued overtime.
Failure, this was my biggest phobia when I was still in secondary school, but with time I learnt it was part of life infact if you don't fail you won't get better. Failure has been part of me and it has helped me grow to this level.
Yeah, to me failure is experience, it depend on us to perceive it rightly or wrongly. I take positives for every failure and this is simply because it's that bedrock to continue again and again.
Very well said