Sometimes when I think about the heartbreaks I went through some years back, I get angry at myself but on the other hand, it’s all good because I know better now. And I only know better now because of such experiences. I’m so tempted to blame it on the fact that I was naive and didn’t know anything but then, that’s so not true. Even if I didn’t know anything, I knew what love was because I come from a home full of love. I am very much loved at home and I’ve been experiencing it in all angles.
During my days of being so naive, I always exchanged compromise with sacrifice. I really thought love was all about compromising. Wrong! It’s rather all about sacrificing and a weeny tiny compromise. If I have to compromise my thoughts ideas, actions, and always say yes or okay just to make you happy then truly, you’re in my life to cause me stagnation. This is no where near love.
Years back, I wouldn’t have even thought twice about being with someone I had to only agree with but now? Come on darling, don’t you think if I wanted to be doing “Yes sir, master” all the time, I would have joined the military?
I believe one of the most beautiful ways of being intimate with your partner is talking to them. Getting to know their opinions on pressing and normal issues. Getting to know why they think what they think. So if I were to be that wife whose partner wants to hear nothing but a yes or okay from me all the time, it just wouldn’t work out.
I wouldn’t feel loved and respected in an anyway. I understand that my husband would be expecting to prevent arguments with this “policy”. I on the other hand, would also be piling a lot of things in me and someday, I would have no option than to burst and that would even cause worse arguments than he’s been preventing. In as much men hate arguments, they have to know that sometimes, arguments prevent breakup or divorce because you get to let it all out.
A lot of ladies are just “existing” in relationships waiting for the right window to jump out because their partners never want to hear what they have to say. They believe they are the men in the relationship and have to lead. Listen, I understand that there could be times where I would lean too much on my emotions to want the wrong things. If it’s one of those times and then my partner comes in to help me see what’s the best thing to do, then that’s fine. Even with that, it’s totally up to me to decide if I’ll go with what he’s saying or not.
Not having much of a say in a relationship officially turns it into a dictatorship and with what I know about dictatorships, they never end well.
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You see that word, just apologize for peace to reign??? It's not for me. Let everywhere BURN! I will ONLY apologise when I'm wrong. Like you rightly said, if he makes you see reasons to do what he thinks is best and you confirm it is... WHY NOT? Respect is mutual and Love is not pain.
Relax first🤣
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😒.... Wetin I won take you do?
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Relax na🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Remember, two wrongs cannot make a right👌
Lol.... I want to be wrong. Make all of us calm down after burning and exercising anger. Because if I keep apologising for peace to reign even when he's wrong, how will he take responsibilities and be a better man? 😑
Truth, anyways🤣
😂.... You see??? 😉
Your last words got me.
"Love is not pain"
Yeah, love is not. Quite unfortunate most people have branded love to be pain. Thank you for reading me 🙂
Will there be any freedom of expression? No, because the laid down rule is don't say a word.
The best is to marry one's friend as a man or woman👍
Yeah I agree
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Shey na current one you dey hold him hand so, or just ex😏😏
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Saying yes and nodding to a partner all the time is that even love, it isn't love when you can't be able to express yourself in a relationship. It is only sweet when there is communication without communication I don't what it is then.
Yes Girll!! We don’t want anything like that.
Ahem. Ahem. Mr A’s hand?
Stay awayyyy🤣
I believe that is...patriarchy? Yeah, no to that. I see relationships as sort of a co-piloting thing. Decisions are made to together, and you hear each other out about stuff.
I believe that the best way relationships can thrive is through communication and empathy. The former is somewhat common in many relationships, but the latter, not so much. Empathy requires emotional intelligence and not many people have that.
I would love to hear more on this
Tag me if you ever write a post like that.
Ahhh I don't think I'll be writing a post like that. If I will, it definitely won't be one of these day. But you never know, so...
Alright
It wouldn't be a relationship if one does all the talking and the other can't say much. As you said, it won't end well.
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Yeah, that’s true.
Thank you for the support
I love how you emphasized the importance of healthy arguments and not bottling up emotions. In healthy relationships, compromise is essential. However, excessive sacrifice can lead to resentment and imbalance.
Yeah, that’s true.