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Hello Hive friends, I have been a little lost due to many inconveniences that I have had at the family health level. But today I would like to share with you a talk I witnessed called "Beauty Stereotypes" given by a group of volunteer Psychologists who are part of the SOMOS foundation.
The foundation, according to the girls, was founded in Merida-Venezuela and was initially a foundation looking for support for the LGBT community. But then, they realized that there are other communities that also require support, and among those are people who suffer from gender-based violence, people with terminal illnesses, HIV and women.
One of the things that caught my attention the most is that certainly Venezuelan women were raised with a fairly high canon of beauty, and all because of Miss Venezuela, Miss Universe. This makes many women feel that they are not beautiful. And since we were little girls, stereotypes are being instilled in us that we are supposed to comply with, feeling frustrations for not complying with the much acclaimed 90-60-90 measures.
The interesting thing about the conversation is that they invited different women, and each one with different professions, models, doctors, philosophers, engineers. And so the question on the air was: What is beauty? With this the conversation begins. What is the beauty stereotype we are chasing. And the psychologists addressed that the stereotype should be oneself. Love your body as it is. Without setting absurd goals, because, for example, it's okay for a girl to want to exercise because it's fun or she feels healthy, but not to achieve measures that don't correspond to her. Or that a person of short stature, wants to look like a tall woman worthy of Miss Venezuela. All these feelings lead to frustration and not feeling appreciated for who we are.
The philosopher spoke of the soul, and perhaps beauty can be seen from there. The surgeon asks her patients why they really want to have an aesthetic operation and the size XL model how she manages to accept herself and model for various brands with a world that suffers from fatophobia. It was really interesting to listen to them.
A girl from the audience commented that it is important to accept yourself, not to get carried away by extremes either, that you should respect your decisions and those of others, and she gave an example that pleased me because I was discussing it with a friend some time ago. She was betting on growing her armpit hairs, and I wasn't. The young woman in the audience commented that one has to respect her beauty guidelines, if for some to feel beautiful is shaving because you have to respect without judging, now if you want to leave your hair, that's also fine. The idea is that the woman feels comfortable with herself.
Another thing that pleased me is that stereotypes are changing according to time and context, previously a woman was considered beautiful if she was "chubby" because she said she enjoyed health, she ate well. At other times the hips, at other times the skinny ones. All of these are more a thing that society imposes on you. The important thing is to be healthy not only physically but emotionally.
I think the activity served as a catharsis for some, recognizing themselves in others and those insecurities that plague women. Life is just an instant, one of the models said... Put on those shorts, even if you have cellulite, because tomorrow, when you're old, no one will remember that cellulite.
Finally, I would like the women who read this post to reply to each other... What message am I sending to my body? Do I really accept myself as I am? What is my beauty stereotype?
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Hola amigos de Hive, he estado un poco perdida por muchos inconvenientes que he tenido a nivel de salud familiar. Pero hoy me gustaría compartir con ustedes una charla que presencié llamada "Estereotipos de Belleza" dictado por un grupo de Psicólogas voluntarias que forman parte de la fundación SOMOS.
La fundación según indican las chicas, se fundó en Merida-Venezuela e inicialmente era una fundación en busca del apoyo a la comunidad LGTB. Pero luego, se dieron cuenta que hay otras comunidades que también requieren apoyo, y entre esas las personas que sufren de violencia de género, personas con enfermedades terminales, VIH y las mujeres.
Una de las cosas que más me llamó la atención es que ciertamente las mujeres venezolanas fuimos criadas con un canon de belleza bastante alto, y todo por el Miss Venezuela, Miss Universo. Esto hace que muchas mujeres sientan que no son bellas. Y desde niñas se nos va inculcando estereotipos que se supone debemos cumplir, sintiendo frustraciones por no cumplir con las tan aclamadas medidas 90-60-90.
Lo interesante del conversatorio es que invitaron a diferentes mujeres, y cada una con profesiones diferentes, modelos, doctoras, filósofas, ingenieros. Y pues la pregunta al aire fue: ¿Que es la belleza? Con esto se inicia el conversatorio. Cuál es el estereotipo de belleza que estamos persiguiendo. Y las psicólogas abordaban que el estereotipo debe ser uno mismo. Amar su cuerpo tal cual. Sin fijarse metas absurdas, porque, por ejemplo, está bien que una chica quiera ejercitarse porque le divierte o se siente saludable pero no para alcanzar unas medidas que no le corresponden. O que una persona de baja estatura, quiera verse como una mujer alta digna de Miss Venezuela. Todos estos sentimientos llevan a la frustración y no sentir aprecio por lo que somos.
La filósofa habló del alma, y puede que la belleza se vea de ahí. La cirujana le cuestiona a sus pacientes el por qué realmente quieren operarse estéticamente y la modelo de talla XL como logra aceptarse y modelar para diversas marcas con un mundo que sufre de gordofobia. Realmente fue interesante escucharlas.
Una chica del público comentaba que es importante aceptarse, no dejarse llevar tampoco por los extremos, que debía respetar sus decisiones y las de las demás, y dió un ejemplo que me agradó porque hace tiempo lo discutía con una amiga. Ella apostaba por dejarse crecer los vellos de las axilas, y yo no. La joven del público comentaba que uno tiene que respetar sus lineamientos de belleza, si para unas sentirse guapa es afeitandose pues hay que respetar sin juzgar, ahora sí te quieres dejar el vello, también está bien. La idea es que la mujer se sienta cómoda consigo.
Otra de las cosas que me agradó es que los estereotipos van cambiando según el tiempo y el contexto, anteriormente una mujer se consideraba hermosa si era "gordita" porque decía que gozaba de salud, se alimentaba bien. En otros tiempos las caderonas, en otros las flacas. A todas estas es más una cosa que te impone la sociedad. Lo importante es estar saludable no solo físicamente sino emocionalmente.
Creo que la actividad sirvió de catarsis para algunas, reconocerse en las otras y esas inseguridades que aquejan a las mujeres. La vida es solo un instante, una de las modelos dijo... Ponte ese shorts, así se te vea la celulitis, porque el día de mañana, cuando estés anciana, nadie se va a acordar de esa celulitis.
Para finalizar, me gustaría que las mujeres que lean este post se contesten... ¿Que mensaje le estoy enviando a mi cuerpo? Realmente me acepto como soy? Cuál es mi estereotipo de belleza?
Un fuerte abrazo para ustedes
What a nice initiative. You have a good point here. Many women are unhappy with their body and look, which is a very dangerous path to walk on. Talks, meetings can definitely help find the right way.
I hope to see you more active on Hive. Engagement is key here.
Thanks, Erikah. Yes, I constantly think about posting, lol but it just stays in my thoughts with the day to day. I will have to set goals to be more disciplined and achieve consistency. I really enjoy writing here a lot. Thanks for reading. A hug.
Siempre nos han presionado mucho para ser bonitas físicamente pero lo que es bonito para uno no lo es oara el otro, además la belleza de una persona viene del alma, hay mucha gente mala con linda apariencia. Bendiciones
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Exacto, cada quien tiene sus conceptos de belleza. Lo importante es evitar las comparaciones porque allí es donde empieza la frustración. Y tal vez el secreto está en disfrutarse uno mismo, amarse, y si queremos mejorar algo, hacerlo para nuestro bienestar, físico, mental y emocional. Gracias por leerme amiga.
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