People have a common saying on the internet these days, they say, never interfere when couples have a disagreement, but what happens when your friend is involved in an abusive relationship, how long should you be quiet?
This story is one of the reasons why people are advised never to get involved in a couple's conflict. Two close friends who absolutely know everything about one another as a result of being close friends for years have been living together until love came knocking for one of them and she made up her mind that she was no longer searching, and moved in with the man she loved. It was a beautiful relationship except for the fact that this man she claimed to love had a serious anger and ego issue, he tried to cut her off from friends and families, and as a matter of fact, he created a routine for her.
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When her best friend heard about the arrangement, she was really angry and displeased, so she told her friend that she had to move out of the house as the abuse was not something she should Condon, they started to make plans on how she would move out, what she would do amongst other arrangements, when the day for her to move out of the house came, her best friend drove into her lover's apartment in order to pick her up based on their previous plans bearing in mind that the lover would be out by then. Only for her to knock on the apartment door and she was welcomed by the lover who was supposed to be out of the country, not only was she shocked, but the words that came out of his mouth made her really angry and disappointed.
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Her friend had explained everything to her lover and she had shown him messages of all her friend said about him, she could not believe that this same friend of hers who came crying to her a few months ago, is the one who is betraying her this way. Embarrassed and confused, she gently walked out of the apartment with her friend's lover screaming after her until she got into her car. This happened three months ago and she had to re-play the episode on her mind again because this same friend is sending her a message, pleading for help as her lover has now developed the habit of beating and cheating.
Flashing back to her previous experience and considering the fact that, she hasn't been on speaking terms with her friend since the embarrassing event, she is confused about if she is supposed to respond to her friend or ignore her, now if you were in her shoes what would you do, or in this case what would you advise her to do?
Wow-that's a tough call. No one should ever put up with abuse. It can be hard to break away from it, especially if it's what you've known your whole life. I'm not sure that is the issue with why this lady stays with the man or not.
Ultimately, the friend might need help, but perhaps the friend who was 'used' needs to tell the friend that she really is free to walk out; she just needs to do it and seek help and protection if necessary. Depending on the friend's feelings for her now, she might choose to help again.
Trust is a hard thing to earn back once broken. I honestly am not sure what I would do; I would have to seriously think on it and pray about it.
Thanks for sharing and have a lovely day! !LADY
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It is really a tough call and I would be confused as well, probably take actions only after thorough thinking, praying and calculating.
psychological abuse situations are complicated, surely the victim told everything to the lover due to fear and being manipulated 😔
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That's really a tough one.
This would not be easy. I think the friend has serious co-dependency issues and well, she has to decide that she wants to be helped. This time, she should come to you. The last time you went but this time let her decide what she wants. You'd help her or anything she needs but she should come to you. I have never been in such a situation but that is what I would do if I was.
Sounds like a super smart plan, instead of taking the risk of going to her then she should come if she really needs help then, thank you.
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