I had this unseperable friend and we were inseparable and i had shared several adventures together with her since we were little. Our bonds were literally unbreakable and i was happy for the friendship to the extent i thought that we might marry 😅
Last week on a sunny afternoon, as me and shalom we strolling down our street laughing and chatting and gisting and even gossiping and suddenly i paused and pointed at my hair. "Shalom, look, I dyed my hair and i asked her Isn't it amazing?" Because i noticed she wasn't aware that i dyed my hair because i used hat and she shouted immediately after she saw it and her face wasn't the face of excitement.
Shalom kept on glancing at my friend's hair and frowned why did i do this? And she kept on asking that why can't i leave it black and she also asked the color for me." And i saw she wasn't happy and i replied that it was my choice and the words coming out of her mouth were not so warm and i was hurt and her voice carried a hint of disapproval.
I smiled throughout as she kept on saying things closely attached to negativity and she noticed my reaction. At first, i thought since she was my best friend, i thought she would be thrilled. My feelings truly hurt by her unexpected response, and i became angru and i asked her "What do you mean shalom don't you love my new hair color! It represents my vibrant personality. Why don't you like it? And i kept on asking questions.
Immediately after my questions, she sighed, after she was fully aware and she had realized that her words had unintentionally hurt me . Then she started to act innocent that it's not that I don't like it, but this color is a bad choice and she's not just used to seeing me without my natural hair color. And i became angrier because she wasn't trying to apologize.
I crossed my arms and looked away, feeling betrayed by my best friend's lack of support. And immediately i told her, Well maybe I don't want to be 'normal' anymore and also I want to stand out and be different and that's why i showed you because you are my best friend and I thought you would understand that but here you're acting the opposite way.
Immediately i said that, our peaceful walk immediately turned into an uncomfortable silence throughout our journey home and i left her alone and we didn't say goodbye and i felt hurt and misunderstood and as i walk down to where i took my picture, the anger in me grew wider with every unspoken word and throughout my journey, it was as if i was in a battleground.
Today made it one week since the tension between me and Priscilla and since then we avoided each other, spending time with ourselves reduced drastically and we don't talk anymore and i wasn't the same anymore.
As i was writing this article i went down to Priscilla home and i saw her sitting alone in the car park and she realized how much she missed me and Despite my anger and disappointment, the void left in my mind weighed heavily on her heart. I then realized that our friendship was worth fighting for, even if it meant accepting differences.
With determination in m eyes, i decided to reach out to Priscilla. And i apologized first and at that moment i don't want her apologies again because i cherish my friendship alot and we settled and she also apologized.
Finally she said she love my hair and i know she doesn't mean it though and i told her it doesn't mean wether you like it or not, you're still my friend.
