Have you ever been with someone who stays calm in the middle of chaos? Like, the world is literally on fire, and they are calm like they've seen it all before . Meanwhile, I’m in the corner mentally screaming, “WE’RE DOOMED" and trying not to get a heart attack.
Someone please explain to me how y'all stay calm and smile in chaos.
There is this grace such people carry, those calm, grounded, unbothered (idgf face). They dance around pressure with smile and they survive. While I'm busy forecasting different scenarios in five minutes, they're over there cracking jokes, laughing, eating or just breathing.like those deep, concentrated yoga kind of breathing.
And I admire that. So much.
Because me?... I panic, I freeze, my mind becomes a battle ground fighting my thoughts before anything *actually"happens. It's like my head and emotions press the fast forward button while fighting with the remote.
These reminds me of my friend back then in my department, we both had issues with one the departmental course. Ha I was frustrated, devastated, and I considered myself a failure. I couldn't eat because I was crushed and crying all day. But Julian was busy gisting, cracking jokes, watching movies and trying to help me get out of that mood. It wasn't making sense then but I understand better now.
But people who stay happy, grounded, and unshake, they serve as an anchor for those around them. They remind us that even storms pass, that every moment doesn’t need a meltdown, and sometimes, choosing peace is louder than reacting.
I have tried to learn it, taking deep breath, counting to ten, positive self-talk, listening to music and watching movies. Sometimes it works.
Other times, the chaos wins and I am back to square one, overthinking and frustrated.
But maybe that’s okay.
Maybe admiration is the first step. Maybe it’s not about becoming someone else, but slowly adding the traits you love into your own rhythm.
I still panic sometimes.
I can't do this adoption alone so i learn from them, i ask questions, i try again. And little by little, I’ve learned to pause and take a breathe. To trust that not every chaos /situation needs my full emotion.
Someday, I hope I’ll be among the calm one in the room.
But until then, I’ll keep showing up. With shaky and sweaty hands, teary and hopeful eyes,trying my best to grow into the calmness I admire so deeply.
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Before I panic a lot when some things happen but now I don't even try it because I saw that it doesn't worth it, what will be will be, that extra stress will only take away joy from my life.
I like that part " what will be , will be."
I can't really say I panic a lot. I'll just stay, having the reality of the situation tug at my heartstrings but I won't really fuss over it. But I'm not calm. If it was a situation I could salvage almost immediately, I definitely would do something about it
Well said.
There are some situations we don't have control over.
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Those people who usually keep calm in times of distress or stress are definitely from another world, and are very valuable because they bring tranquility and positivism.
You are correct.
They are from another planet.
Maintaining tranquility isn't just an ordinary trait.
Thank you.
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Over thinking is an element that increase the problem multifolded. It is like creating a mountain out of a mole. It needs a lot of patience and practice to instil the habit of calmness, for those who have anxiety problem. I think our perspectives and mindset have a lot to do with how we percieve situations.
One step at a time. I wish you good luck
Am always scared and agitated when I find myself in such a hectic situation. Am trying to be calm, it's not easy though.
One thing I always say in such situations is that, they are rules made by humans so there is always a solution, so why stress.