Queridas amigas de @ladiesofhive, quiero contarles mi experiencia porque este tema puede interesarle a las jóvenes y las mujeres que como yo han tenido situaciones similares y quizás sienten pena hablar de ello. También puede interesarle a los hombres de esta gran @colmena porque el universo sensitivo de las mujeres les atañe a los padres, hermanos y esposos.
Dear friends of @ladiesofhive, I want to tell you about my experience because this topic may be of interest to young women and women who, like me, have had similar situations and perhaps feel embarrassed to talk about it. It may also interest the men of this great @colmena because the sensitive universe of women concerns parents, brothers and husbands.
A los 50 años cerré toda esperanza de tener hijos propios, la edad biológica es determinante aunque tengamos ansias de ser madre. Ya había pasado por la típica crisis de los 40, donde veía un niño y me preguntaba "me lo merezco o no".
Y no es cuestión de merecerlo sino de tomar las desiciones correctas respectos a las oportunidades que nos da la vida.
Mi ginecólogo me dijo un día que por ver a tantas mujeres con hijos, se cree que el embarazo y alumbramiento es cualquier cosa y no, es un milagro.
At 50 years old I closed all hope of having children of my own, biological age is decisive even if we long to be a mother. I had already gone through the typical midlife crisis, where I would see a child and ask myself "do I deserve it or not." And it is not a question of deserving it but of making the right decisions regarding the opportunities that life gives us.
My gynecologist told me one day that seeing so many women with children, it is believed that pregnancy and childbirth is anything and no, it is a miracle.
Y ya lo creo y por eso hay que valorar mucho esa oportunidad que la naturaleza te da de engendrar un hijo, que tu organismo, olvidándose de si mismo, se vuelca a alimentar una pequeña semilla por 9 meses y luego la vida entera.
Yo desprecié dos oportunidades a los 20 y 21 años, mi situación económica y mis estudios me impulsaron a tomar la decisión incorrecta.
Durante años me sometí a tratamientos de Reproducción Asistida, pero ya mi organismo daba señales de cambios hormonales. A los 39 años me realizaron una Fecundación In Vitro (FIV) en Francia, pero no lo logré porque ya padecía Sinequia, que invalidó la concepción.
Estos chicos que están en mi cama son mis sobrinos, hoy todos tienen sus hijos que también son mis nietos.
And I already believe it and that is why you have to highly value that opportunity that nature gives you to generate a child, that your body, forgetting about itself, turns to feed a small seed for 9 months and then your entire life.
I rejected two opportunities at the ages of 20 and 21, my economic situation and my studies prompted me to make the wrong decision. For years I underwent Assisted Reproduction treatments, but my body was already showing signs of hormonal changes.
At the age of 39, I had In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) performed in France, but I did not succeed because I already suffered from synechia, which invalidated the conception.
These boys who are in my bed are my nephews, today they all have their children who are also my grandchildren.
El acontecimiento del embarazo y alumbramiento es un hecho natural pero no libre de problemáticas y es cuando se me aloja en el pecho esa alternativa de Embarazo subrogado aprobada en nuestro país. No me sentí preparada asumir esta opción, para la cual tampoco tenía candidata.
La adopción tambien es una proceso complejo pues requiere trámites interminables y una cadena de incertidumbres que no me fueron cómodos. Hubiese querido un bebé recién nacido, debía esperar a que tuviera más de dos años para tener la certeza que sus padres biológicos no asumirían la custodia.
The event of pregnancy and childbirth is a natural event but not free of problems and that is when that alternative of Surrogacy Pregnancy approved in our country lodges in my chest.
I did not feel prepared to take on this option, for which I did not have a candidate either. Adoption is also a complex process as it requires endless procedures and a chain of uncertainties that were not comfortable for me.
She would have wanted a newborn baby, she had to wait until she was over two years old to be sure that her biological parents would not assume custody.
Esos pormenores ocurrieron en momentos en que ya estaba enferma por las anemias prolongadas como resultado a los desvalances hormonales y que pusieron en riesgo mi vida.
Por inclinación natural sentía la necesidad de un hijo para sentirme completa; de alguna manera la sociedad espera que cada mujer engendre un hijo.
Sin embargo, hay muchas maneras de dar amor maternal, desde joven sentí inclinación por los niños, asumí como míos los hijos concebidos por mis hermanos y amigos. A ellos le he dado y doy mi primer pensamiento de la mañana, el último al acostarme.
These details occurred at a time when I was already ill due to prolonged anemia as a result of hormonal imbalances, which put my life at risk. By natural inclination I felt the need for a child to feel complete; somehow society expects every woman to bear a child.
However, there are many ways to give maternal love, since I was young I felt an inclination for children, I assumed the children conceived by my brothers and friends as my own. I have given and give them my first thought in the morning, the last when I go to bed.
De ellos recibo amor infinito, les doy mis besos y mimos, mi apoyo. Y sin preguntarles sé que mis hermanos están gustosos de esa relación. Esto me ha permitido transitar sin frustraciones y convencida que las jóvenes deben saber los riesgos para luego tomar las decisiones.
Miro atrás y no me siento infeliz por no tener hijos propios, quizás entendí las señales y si no pude tenerlos por la vía natural, ni espiritual, ni científica, pues continuo mi rumbo acompañada de todos esos seres queridos que nunca me han dejado sola porque me saben a su lado.
From them I receive infinite love, I give them my kisses and cuddles, my support. And without asking them I know that my brothers are happy with that relationship. This has allowed me to move forward without frustration and convinced that young women should know the risks and then make the deductions.
I look back and I don't feel unhappy for not having children of my own, perhaps I understood the signs and if I couldn't have them through natural, spiritual, or scientific means, then I continued my course accompanied by all those loved ones who have never left me alone because They know me by their side.
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Gracias por contarnos tus experiencias. Sé que a alguien vas a bendecir con tus palabras. Ya has sido premiada con muchos hijos que te aman un montón
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I don't know why my eyes were heavy while reading this post. It is so emotional. I'm happy your family are loving and love is the most important thing regardless. When there is love there is hope and happiness, regardless of what you are going through.
I felt emotional because I have seen some close people who pass through this same thing. I'm glad you are still finding happiness regardless ❤️
Hello, @rayoo thank you for your love. it took me a long time to accept that I couldn't have them, I told myself because if others did the same nothing would happen to them. Each human being is a universe and must learn from their mistakes. I have supported many young women and today they have their children. Thank you ❤
This is incredible. I assure you that there is nothing our god cannot do. A woman who has gotten to 67 years of age still gave birth to twins after going through some kind of disease, which I cannot explain. This was a miracle.
Since you have a love for children, just keep that habit, and you shall be rewarded handsomely.
Thank you for your words, I can't have them anymore. God has rewarded me with having them by my side. I give love and I am returned. I don't ask for more. thank you.
Increíble experiencia cargada de aprendizaje e inspiración. Concuerdo con que podemos dar ese amor de madre a cualquier niño que este en nuestra vida y ojalá Dios te bendiga siempre. Gracias por compartir tu relato, un saludo.
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Thank you, a pleasure to be in this community
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Gracias, tu comentario me alienta
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Saludos amiga, que bueno que le has dado un vuelco a los pensamientos asumes con esa hermosa actitud lo que has vivido.
Un viejo refrán dice que a quien Dios no le da hijos lo premia con muchos sobrinos, y ese este tu caso, estas rodeada de ese amor maternal pero visto desde otro punto o vinculo y es ese gran regalo departe de tus hermanos quienes te dieron el titulo de tía.
Bendiciones para ti los tuyos.
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Having children is a blessing. Nevertheless, God knows the best for us. Staying contented brings us peace in whatever situattion we are.
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