Feliz día estimadas damas.
Invito a:
Para esta semana voy a contestar la primera pregunta:
1️⃣ ¿Cómo manejas las correcciones o críticas de otras personas?
Pienso que depende de quien me las digas y de como está mi ánimo en ese momento. No es lo mismo que te hagan una crítica o corrección cuando estás feliz que cuando estás decaída. Simplemente la reacción es diferente.
En mi caso mi madre siempre me corrige todos los días, simplemente quiere que de lo mejor de mi. Y eso que ya soy de la tercera edad. Madre es madre. Sus hijos siempre serán pequeños. Nunca nos ve como adultos. A veces no le hago caso, depende de mi ánimo. Pero luego me pongo a pensar en lo que me dice. Siempre hay algo que aprendo de lo que ella me dice. No importa la edad, no importa el nivel cultural. Siempre sus correcciones las hace con amor y eso es lo más importante para mí.
También cuando trabajaba me tocó compañeros muy críticos. Para mi gusto diría que demasiado. Al principio no entendía nada de lo que me decían. Llegué a ese empleo contratada, luego quedé fija. A partir del momento que quedé fija, una señora que laboraba en el mismo departamento, pareciese que me montaba una cacería con el fin de criticar cualquier cosa. Lo peor del caso era que hacía lo mismo con todo el personal. Nadie la soportaba pero eran incapaces de decírselo.
-¿Qué hice con tanta crítica?
Me armé de paciencia y empecé a observar....En el departamento la mayoría de los que trabajaba eran hombres y solo éramos 4 mujeres (la secretaria, y nosotras tres que trabajamos en investigación). La secretaria temblaba cada vez que la criticaba.....
Seguí observando y aguantando. Algunas consideraciones las tomé en cuenta, las que me parecieron razonables. Las otras simplemente las ignoré. Mi equilibrio mental lo mantuve siempre.
Con el tiempo descubrí que esa persona "criticona" tenía muchos problemas familiares. Lamentablemente descargaba su frustración en todos nosotros.
También me tocó compartir con ella cuando asistimos a eventos fuera de nuestra ciudad. Allí compartimos incluso habitación. ¡Oh! sorpresa, descubrí un ser indefenso, poco audaz, temeroso. Desde ese momento cambié mi percepción hacia ella.
Con los años, antes de ella jubilarse, charlamos tranquilamente y me participó que yo fuí muy audaz en implementar una manera diferente de hacer las cosas y que ella admiraba ese coraje. Confesó que nunca se hubiese atrevido a realizar tales proezas.
-¿Qué les parece?
Insólito pero lo viví y no me arrepiento de ello. Me sirvió para crecer como persona.
ENGLISH VERSION
Happy day dear ladies.
I invite:
For this week I'm going to answer the first question:
1️⃣ How do you handle other people's corrections or criticisms?
I think it depends on who you tell them to me and how my mood is at the time. It's not the same to get a criticism or correction when you're happy as when you're down. The reaction is simply different.
In my case, my mother always corrects me every day, she simply wants me to do my best. And I am already a senior citizen. Mother is mother. Her children will always be small. She never sees us as adults. Sometimes I don't listen to her, it depends on my mood. But then I think about what she tells me. There is always something I learn from what she tells me. No matter the age, no matter the cultural level. She always makes her corrections with love and that is the most important thing for me.
Also when I was working I had very critical colleagues. For my taste I would say too much. At the beginning I didn't understand anything they said to me. I was hired, then I became a permanent employee. From the moment I became permanent, a lady who worked in the same department seemed to hunt me down in order to criticize anything. The worst thing was that she did the same with all the staff. Nobody could stand her but they were unable to tell her.
-What did I do with so much criticism?
I got patient and started to observe .... In the department most of the people working there were men and there were only 4 women (the secretary, and the three of us who worked in research). The secretary trembled every time I criticized her......
I continued to observe and endure. Some considerations I took into account, the ones that seemed reasonable. The others I simply ignored. My mental equilibrium was always maintained.
Eventually I discovered that this "judgmental" person had a lot of family problems. Unfortunately, she took out her frustration on all of us.
I also got to share with her when we attended events outside of our city, where we even shared a room. Oh, surprise, I discovered a helpless, fearful, fearless being. From that moment on I changed my perception of her.
Over the years, before she retired, we had a quiet chat and she told me that I was very bold in implementing a different way of doing things and that she admired that courage. She confessed that she would never have dared to perform such feats.
-What do you think?
Unusual, but I lived it and I don't regret it. It helped me grow as a person.
Well, to be honest, I want to congrats to you because you have a great mom, though she is always complaining or giving corrections to you but all what she wants is about give the best life for ya. ^^ There were some periods in the past, my mom did it to me, I understood that because she was worry about my life and wanted her kids have a stable life, so she chose that way to show her love. ^^
Further more, I love that you do not let you emotion controls you in any circumstance like above. muachhhhh.
Keep moving, sister!
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La manera de actuar de las personas siempre revela un poco de su interior incluso cuando se pongan un coraza, la gente criticona sin duda tiene muchas cosas dentro que resolver, es bueno que hayas tenido esa experiencia con tu compañera de trabajo. Gracias por compartir 😊
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Family often mean well to us and great that your mom corrects you with much love❤
Your colleague sounds a lot like some people who take their frustrations to another. It's good that you were able to handle it well and even got to know her and her troubles better. That is awesome!
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