Many people date and get married for different reasons, while others could be together to feel complete, some might want children or companionship, and some might want business partners. As these reasons vary from person to person, it is important to have a reason why you are dating or marrying someone before getting into that relationship.
For a big part of 2021, I wanted a relationship and I did have a reasonable magnitude of males lining up for my hand but it never seemed right, I would often ask myself certain questions like what would I stand to gain from this person and this wasn’t about me wanting money from them but it was simply wondering what the person could add to me emotionally, career-wise, spiritually and so on and most of the time the answer wasn’t a good one.
To me, I wasn’t dating for sex, and I wasn’t lonely because I always had family around and I felt like if I was dating someone who couldn’t offer much then I was wasting my time and energy because in a relationship you need a reasonable amount of energy.
After a while of my brothers laughing and calling me a recluse, I decided to give someone a try and well did that fail miserably, he would always call and the majority of the time we had nothing to talk about and there were so many awkward silences in each conversation that after a month I had to call it quits, you know a relationship is wrong when you don’t feel like speaking to your partner.
After him I met a lot of well, worse people to me, some complained that I was too churchy, others wanted to limit the time I spent with my family and those were two areas that I didn’t play with so I didn’t bother trying it out.
I recently had a conversation with a friend at work who said he liked a girl and due to this he started creating a business brand for her, he went as far as designing the brand and even giving it a name and he spoke about how even though it didn’t work out he didn’t regret it. Another person, a friend of my brother had trained his girlfriend all through university and they were getting married next year and I know people who have even got as far as investing in crypto and making other investments for their partners.
You might ask where the girls are and I would say I know a few girls who have invested their savings and even school fees just to help boost their partners business even though I wouldn’t advise using your school fees for anything other than school, it shows that a relationship could be invested in and you could gain to benefit a lot just by choosing the right person for your cause.
After my months of waiting, I finally met some who isn't only investing their time by teaching me about graphic designing but also gives me emotional support and education on certain areas which I know would make a big difference even if we don’t end up together.
An investment doesn't have to be monetary, your time teaching someone, your prayer, and even sending opportunities their way would be considered as an investment.
Now, I am not telling you to date people just because of what you might gain but all I am saying is that you stand a lot to gain from being with the right people and you still get to enjoy other privileges like sex and companionship.
Relationships are very big investments because, in the end, you find yourself investing your time, effort, etc. so I would advise you to know what you want before getting into one because there is nothing worse than a bad investment.
What are your thoughts on this topic? Can a relationship be a profitable investment?
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Nice post I must say.
But I think if relationship is an investment, I should have a good return on investment.
In all I should gain and the person involved should also gain from me.
It is a mutual thing
😆 leave me oh but of course, you should have a return hence I said choosing right and knowing what you want is very important.
Oh yes i think it is! I for one have never been able to hold a long term relationship because i get bored along the way of the same things and topics. I hate being choked and calling all the time is a red flag for me. I'm what a guy called sapiosexual. Which means, I'm only attracted to intelligent men even if I'm not one myself. What an insult! 😂
Overall, Relationships can be the best investment if in it with the right person. It's not always about money, I'd pick a loyal man over a rich one.
You get me, I easily get bored of the routine and all that so even when I try to do a long term it just never works.
The fact is finding the right person is very hard.
This is brilliant! I think you just about captured what every single person should have in mind before going into a relationship.
Is a relationship an investment? It is. It's all about two people investing their time and self (physically and emotionally) in each other.
It's best to settle for someone that you are in sync with. If not, I'll say call it quits or better yet, don't go into it at all.
I'm impressed with your thoughtful writing so I'll drop this post for curation at @dreemport and hopefully other users will come in to further share their views on this topic with you.
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I think the reason most people end up breaking up is cause they don't date those they are in sync with.
I am glad you enjoyed reading this, I truly appreciate it.
Getting involved in a relationship entails a lot of investment. You have to gain nee values and try to be compatible.
Yes it does and it takes a lot to find compatibility
A whole lot dear.
It's just few people who are really determined that find it.
And sadly even the few won't find it
Sadly my dear.
We just leave it to fate.
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Sure, you can say that it is an investment! You put something in and you get something back. You consistently put in resources if you want the relationship to grow.. time, attention, love, gifts, sacrifice, etc.
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Very thoughtful and impressive. I also agree that any relationship can be viewed as an investment. After all, it involves giving off your energy and if it isn't reciprocated, you'll be drained eventually. If you ask me, that's a waste of resources.