LADIES OF HIVE COMMUNITY CONTEST #175
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#ENGLISH VERSION#
Whenever I come across the word sacrifice my heart race in fear.I have made a huge sacrifice just for my family to stay united. Is it really a sacrifice Or lack of courage to voice out? call it whatever!
I was 14, young and naive when my 26 year old brother molested me thankfully he didn't have his way.
It was the most shocking and disconcerted day of my life.
It was may 12,2019 my brother had gone out and I decided to take a nap in his room because his room was more cosy and well furnished,I don't know how long I had slept but I was awoken by the continues hauling on my undies,I stood up but two strong arms pressed me back down on the mattress ,the atmosphere was filled with strong odor of alcohol ,I struggled to loosen his grips but his strength was unmatched, I was just 14.
I started pleading for him to let go after what seems like a two score seven he briskly walked out of the room with guilt and shame boldly written on his face,my body was bruised ,all my joint were aching I had tears in the corner of my eyes I was too shocked to scream I left his room feeling ashamed and disappointed,I had to start putting on clothes that covers the marks on my body so my parents won't question me.
Do you think I did the right thing by not telling anybody about the attempted rape?,I only did what I felt was right just to protect his image,I consider this the biggest sacrifice I have ever made because if keeping a rape attempt by my brother a secret not a sacrifice what else would you call it?
I feel safe sharing this on Hive because none of my family members is on Hive.
# SPANISH VERSION #
Cada vez que me encuentro con la palabra sacrificio, mi corazón se acelera de miedo. He hecho un gran sacrificio solo para que mi familia permanezca unida. ¿Es realmente un sacrificio o falta de coraje para expresarse? llámalo como quieras!
Yo tenía 14 años, era joven e ingenuo cuando mi hermano de 26 años abusó sexualmente de mí. Afortunadamente no se salió con la suya.
Fue el día más impactante y desconcertado de mi vida.
Era el 12 de mayo de 2019 mi hermano había salido y decidí tomar una siesta en su habitación porque su habitación era más acogedora y estaba mejor amueblada, no sé cuánto tiempo había dormido pero me despertaron los continuos arrastres. En ropa interior, me levanté pero dos brazos fuertes me presionaron contra el colchón, la atmósfera se llenó de un fuerte olor a alcohol, luché por soltar sus agarres pero su fuerza era incomparable, solo tenía 14 años.
Comencé a suplicarle que lo dejara ir después de lo que parecía un dos punto siete, salió rápidamente de la habitación con la culpa y la vergüenza escritas audazmente en su rostro, mi cuerpo estaba magullado, me dolían todas las articulaciones, tenía lágrimas en las esquinas. Mis ojos estaba demasiado sorprendido para gritar. Salí de su habitación sintiéndome avergonzado y decepcionado, tuve que empezar a ponerme ropa que cubriera las marcas en mi cuerpo para que mis padres no me cuestionaran.
¿Crees que hice lo correcto al no contarle a nadie sobre el intento de violación? Solo hice lo que sentí que era correcto para proteger su imagen. Considero que este es el mayor sacrificio que he hecho en mi vida porque si no es un sacrificio, ¿qué haría? ¿lo llamas?
Me siento seguro compartiendo esto en Hive porque ninguno de los miembros de mi familia está en Hive.
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Oh my gosh.
Personally, if he didn't apologize to you and promised not to assault you any more then it must be out in the open. I wouldn't be able to live under the same roof of a person that can do that again when under the influence.
Have courage @lenedamag
Thank you for you advice🥰🥰
I understand on one hand why you didn't say anything. What I am wondering is how he acted around you after that? If he didn't apologize and swear it would never happen again, then he would deserve whatever he got.
I am wondering though, if you might should have said something. What he did, even under the influence of alcohol, was inexcusable and there is always the possibility that he might attempt that again with another woman. I also understand he's a bit older than you and sometimes, that might be a disadvantage.
Take care and be safe!
Well we never spoke about it aftwards.
Thank you for stopping by @elizabethbit
You are welcome; thank you for sharing something that wasn't easy. Take care!
Oh my dear, that's a horror you have went through and I personally feel that you have not done the right thing by keeping it a secret, because this will encourage him to do such things in future again if not you then some other girl.
When a girl keeps quiet on any kind of abuse whether physical or verbal, the opposite person will be more encouraged to do it again.
This is the real problem with many women, majority of the time they get molested by their own close family member and in fear of shame or to keep family harmony they become quiet and these cases only keep rising with the silence. It keeps giving them more and more power.
I wonder how do you put up with him after this incident.
My dear my genuine advice to you as a woman, please bring this matter up with your family, do not feel ashamed about it, I feel teary and enraged while even writing to you this comment. You are very young and this is a deep hurt for you which if you do not confront, the pain of it will go for a long way in your life.
I just find it very embarrassing to talk about,however I will put your advice into consideration,thank you for your kind words @nainaztengra
I wish you lot of strength @lenedamag
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