One shouldn't be hard on him/herself in life because that's the way to enjoy life.
There are lots of amazing things to enjoy in life, so I wouldn't say it is a prison.
We have the right to choose what we really want in life, simple and happy lifestyle is a main distributing factor.
So there are lots of ways to healthy living.
Firstly, one shouldn't see life as a do or die affair.
Unfortunately we have given no right to do whatever we want. Some people get desired things because of luck alone.
Oh okay.
It is well with us all.