Hello Hivers!
I hope you are doing great. This is my first blog post in the Inner Blocks Community and I am glad to share with you my content about love, and relationships for a better love life experience.
Find someone who makes reality better than dreams and do your best to deserve them. — Shane Parrish
We are in the season of love but I would say that love has no season because it needs to be expressed and felt each day of our lives. Love is not spoken, it should be expressed and felt. Although we have those sweet lines that we say to that special person whom we claim to be in love with, they should spring out from the depth of true affection.
We all desire to have the best partner in our love life but have we asked ourselves how we can be the best partner for the other (the better half)? It's a two-way contribution to a healthy, happy and lasting relationship. At times we fail to realise it.
The truth is that to have the best partner, we need to be at our best. We need to groom ourselves in all aspects of our lives and nurture our minds.
I would love to start by saying that the best way to begin a relationship, a healthy and lasting one is to begin with friendship. Friendship is a type of relationship that opens our minds to accept each other the way we are. It creates room to correct with love and respect and support each other.
Nurture Your Mind
Being the best partner involves making intentional decisions and choices. Each day I look at myself and desire to be at least 1% better than I was the previous day, reflecting on how to become better in areas of my life, spiritually, physically, emotionally, socially, financially, and mentally. These are the areas that guide our lives.
At times, it feels like some people run away from being the best partner. What I mean is that they picture all the responsibilities, the commitment, unconditional love, and total trust, unforeseen drama and they are like, "Can I handle this?" They long to have the best partner but they are not sure to be the best for the one they seek. They want to try but they are scared.
I remember when I thought I would not give love another chance after my previous relationship that lasted for 5 years and 6 months and left me heartbroken, but I worked on my mind. I told myself that it was just one person who treated me that way and not all men. I knew that to attract the best to myself, I needed to open my heart again, groom my mind and my thoughts and allow the best to flow towards me.
Knowing that there is no perfect human being, opens us to receiving the perfect imperfection, building the relationship we desire, and being intentional about changing our flaws for a better experience in our love life.
Love Genuinely And Trust
The secret is to LOVE YOURSELF. You can't give what you don't have. I love to love and support my partner. It is only natural that when you are genuine about something, love will lead. It could be difficult to trust someone completely but when you know that there has to be this one person who you need to be part of your life, you will be open to love and trust the person completely to share every journey of your life with. Caring for myself, my health, my appearance and everything about myself will naturally flow towards my partner.
Flavours and Spice
Love naturally creates in your mind those ideas to add flavour and spice up your love life. No one wants to live a boring life and have a boring love life. In that case, I have some ideas for you. At times I create an atmosphere in my mind with a sweet fragrance that suits the atmosphere of a time alone with my partner. Some of these ideas are playing games, lighting scented candles with blue lights on, watching movies, cooking together, working together, holding hands while taking a stroll or an evening walk to enjoy the natural breeze, sitting out in a beautiful garden, going on picnics and fun sites. I would not forget to mention that having a great sense of humour is a great flavour to improve our love life and give our best.
Good Listener And Problem Solver
This cannot be skipped. We want to be heard but we also need to understand that we need to be a good listener, to be ready to listen to our partner to all that needs to be said. Also, we need to be highly observant to know when our partner is not in a happy mood and proffer a solution for whatever the problem is and be supportive in down times.
Gratitude and Forgiveness
Gratitude is like a door that opens other good doors. Practising gratitude has to be a daily thing, appreciating our partners in their efforts towards building the relationship and for their support. We also need to be open to forgive genuinely. Somehow, gratitude and forgiveness has become part of me, I have come to realise that it opens more beautiful doors in my life.
Practise gratitude and learn to forgive.
Quality Time
Spending quality time creates an avenue to learn your partner better and strengthen the relationship.
This is my response to the prompt for the Thinker's Corner Contest February edition initiated by @kenechukwu97
How do I make myself the best partner for my significant other?
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Love from @winanda
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This is awesomeee. Relationship is a journey we get into with imperfect people. We are also imperfect in our ways, but we and our significant other can be intentional about making the imperfect perfect with every step we take in the relationship. It shows that there is always something to learn in our relationships. So much!
You know what? That part about appreciating our partner is something a lot of people take for granted. They think "She cooked? That's what she's supposed to do. Why should I say appreciate that?"
In my relationship, me and my partner say "well done" to each other for any thing each of us do that is nice and helpful in the growth of the relationship. Being able to appreciate each other is a very good thing.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.
Thanks so much Kene.
There is so much to learn being in a relationship and there will be growth as time goes on as long as both partners are cooperative and crave for a lasting relationship.
About appreciating our partner, I agree that most people skip this part and the funny part of it is that, they don't even want to learn.
There was a man I spoke with last year and then he said some things that made me feel pity for the woman he would marry. It was like a Q&A session. I asked him, "what if your wife cooks a delicious food you like and she had to go to market for it and then you come back from work around 10 pm and you feel like eating something else, what would you do? He said that she would have to prepare what he feels like eating that night. I asked, by that time of the night with tiredness? he said "yes" that, that is why he married her, to cook anything he wants to eat whenever he wants it. Lol! This makes me wonder, what are people even learning? All they want to do is get settled without understanding what love is or what marriage is.
Keep up the good work in appreciating your partner, it's good that both of you are cooperative. it also makes way for more blessings.
I'll keep building myself to be a better person all round and to experience a better and lasting relationship when my significant other finds me.
You're welcome and I'm glad I took part this month. Looking forward to subsequent contests.
This is true. Everyone in a relationship knows what he or she is expected to do in the relationship. A man knows his role and a woman also knows her role. However, it has become a shame that a lot of people fail to recognize that their partner deserves a pat on the back for proving for the family. Men also forget that spending time with their wife in the kitchen is also a good way to bring spark to the relationship.
Even when my partner does the slightest things, I appreciate her for it and if there is food in freezer when she has been working for so long, I don't mind warming the food for us to eat. In fact, whenever I'm around and she's cooking, I'm always the one that slices anything that has to be sliced with knife. Hehe.
Relationship isn't easy, but we can make the experience memorable by being there for each other. Thanks so much for sharing this.
Exactly. Some men are doing well in their relationships with their partners, and some women are doing well.
The internet has more information about the negative experiences and ugly sides of relationships, so most people focus on that aspect instead of making their relationships work.
Keep up the work in your relationship, and make it memorable.
Wow!
So sweet to read.
I haven't been into this lovey-dovey of a thing but I know fully well that love from friendship is the best👌
Thanks so much, dear. Entering a relationship has to come from natural likeness and mutual love to build a lasting relationship.
Try to open your heart and let it flow naturally.
I appreciate you for coming around.
Very valid points you made, @winanda. It all begins with loving and accepting ourselves, as no one can give what the don't have. I came in from #dreemport as a dree
Yes dear, when we begin with ourselves, and are intentional about it, it will flow naturally to the other.
Thanks for coming around dear dreemer.
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This is beautiful, really. Every point made resonates with me.
Truly, we need to nurture our minds as doing that helps prepare us for what lies await towards the journey of being the best partner.
Thanks so much dear. I'm glad it does.
If most people in relationships or in search for one could also think this way or better and be intentional about making their relationships work, we would record more successful relationships.
Thanks so much for visiting my blog.
That's just the truth. But the fact is that humans can never be the same, and that's what brings in these crazy relationship shenanigans.
Yeah. Another thing is that the thirst for growth in this area is poor. You will hear someone say that is who I am without the intention of becoming better.