My wife is very similar to that, she prefers to not have to rely on anyone for anything. I think she just feels like she is going to get let down if she does, but I could be wrong. I'm still learning how to be a good manager, and I might never get it. I do the delegation thing, but it's mostly because I know my worker needs to learn. I try to be hands off as much as possible too. I had to learn many of the things I know on my own, so while I am willing to help, I hope he is able to figure out some of it on his own.
It's all about knowing when to push Nd when not to I guess. I work on the premise of providing the support required, without removing their responsibility for the tasks. That way, they have to think for themselves and yet know I'm there when they need...and that they'll get a better response from me if they bring possiblw solutions to problems not just problems.
Yeah, that is a good point. Maybe I am doing a bit better than I think I am!
You probably are; we can all be hard on ourselves at times.