Have you ever won by losing self-confidence and not feeling it? Are you trying hard to get the approval of others so that they can give you? Many people do not trust themselves, but rather derive self-confidence from a few, little by little, and whenever self-confidence is lost, they begin to search for others to glorify them or talk about themselves, so they get only a little confidence.
But self-confidence for me after thinking with myself is a long-term energy that you derive from yourself and stays with you forever regardless of the changes in circumstances, and this is what happened to me, as I found myself talking about my achievements or what I will do or my ambitions in the future, all this in order to attract people and when they say yes, wonderful, yes, you are special.
All I cared about was to get some praise regardless of anything else even if it was all fake but when I think to myself I found if I don't trust myself it's impossible for anyone to give me and it was actually when my friends left for sometimes that there was something missing to find someone to encourage me for what I do and I ask when accomplished something is it good or not?
The solution
In the end it was found that my self-confidence is only from me and I must trust myself even if others don't do it even if I am sure I am able to try to accomplish regardless of others' opinion.
I am not saying that the judgment of others should be neglected but it should be taken into account that every person has a mirror in front of him without doing anything in it and he can judge himself. Just like this term for the mirror in the morning and you ask yourself whether it looks good or not are your clothes good or not.
Likewise, the matter of others judging you should also be directed towards your judgment of yourself and this should be reviewed by yourself because success requires boldness and confidence and this matter should be in your eyes because the judgment of others is not fixed and is affected by facing their personal experiences and circumstances that may not suit you completely because you alone know your capabilities and who knows your potential.
Therefore, you must know your own value and know when to doubt what you have done and when you should move forward and make what others tell you just an opinion or criticism that you alone have a final decision.
Confidence derived from others is never going to last. It is not good to be "too confident" at times, but it is definitely worth getting comfortable and confident enough to be able to take some risks, go out on some limbs, and not worry if failing.
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STOPWe can all take the first step towards greatness. We can be our greatest supporter. Like you said brother, the opinions of others matter... For me though, not always. Great minds achieved great things, even when people told them it was impossible and that they were foolish to even make an attempt. Nice food for thought, brother 🙂
Of Course
Self Confidence is a weapon you make by yourself
Don't wait for others
I'm glad that you found your own self worth. I find feedback from friends important, those I can open up to. Tell them my fears and complex personal issues. Those who are able to just listen and not trying to give advice or tell their own stories. So many people can't stand listening to someone without giving advice or telling a supposedly relating story. I won't get approval from them, no pat on the back, but a hug and compassion. And yes, if I actively ask for it - a ton of advice, judgement and opinions :-D
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