Down came the rain and washed the spider out.
Out came the sun and dried up all the rain
And the itsy bitsy spider climbed up the spout again.
I have no idea who wrote that nursery rhyme and little clue on when it originated - somewhere around the early 1900's in the United States I believe - but recently listened to the wife of a good friend of mine use it as a tool to teach her young daughter a lesson. I'm not sure she's old enough for that lesson to sink in but it's lessons like these that, if repeated habitually, eventually stick and I thought it was really cool.
Essentially, the lesson was, don't give up when things get difficult or go wrong, get up and go again.
It's a great lesson and one I think many people (adults) need to learn - quitting, avoiding and giving in seems to be very prevalent these days; quitting achieves nothing though and re-evaluating, planning and getting on with things does.
Over the last few days I've been teaching my nephew how to play the card game called Uno and there's been a couple of times in which his lack of skill, problem-solving and strategy has caused him some monumental defeats. I think that's awesome because he had the chance to learn from it although he didn't think it was awesome at all.
He got frustrated, disheartened, annoyed, angry, petulant and other such six-and-half-year-old things and I knew he would, but I also knew he'd rebound, knuckle down and push on, which he did much to his credit. He's not the best player I've ever seen (neither am I) but he'll get better and to be honest that's besides the point. The point is that giving up when things are difficult, don't go our way, when we fail or are simply bad at something is a negative thing; those things don't have to cause that negative reaction though and we have the choice of what to do in times like that and, just like the itsy bitsy spider, we can get the fuck up and move shit forward to more positive results. I'm really pleased to see that's what my nephew did.
Have you ever learned a very valuable lesson after at first giving up, capitulation or avoiding a situation or thing that didn't go your way? If you'd like to comment please go ahead.
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Oh yeah, kids do get all angry and upset when they are kak at something like that. I still play properly though as that is indeed how they learn something valuable.
I was talking to a guy in work who was getting pissed off as they always have to let their kid win at games or he goes mental and I was like, dude, what will that teach him?!
I absolutely hate being let go win, always did. I prefer to lose and learn from it which brings better results and satisfaction later. This is why I don't see the point in rewarding mediocrity; no one learns anything except how to be shit. And only cunts want to be shit.
Anyway, fucken Mr bonkers dude...it was hilarious watching his facial expressions as we played and yeah, like you we were playing normally...you know what? He started learning and getting better. Funny about that huh?
So...just in you're not sure...when I play Uno with you I'm going to fucken slay you! Just saying.
I will happily be slayed at Uno. I am shit at it. But I well do my damndest!!
They are funny, it's like a whole rewiring of the brain as they struggle with defeat. I usually joke like mad when trouncing them too 🤣🤣
Uno wars.
There must be snacks though, if not I will fucken kill you.
The old, joke while slaying, must happen, it's a rite of passage for them. So, I approve. Little shits. 🤣
Games without snacks are no games at all!
Uno is a fun card game to play, especially with kids. I know my boys loved to play when they were small. They too would get frustrated, but like @mrbonkers will eventually, they got better as they played more and started understanding the game better.
Hope your week is going well!
I'm not very good at it to be honest, those draw four cards annoy the shit out of me and most games I play I'm defeated quite rapidly...but it was fun to play with little bonkers. Watching his facial expressions when he'd have to pick up cards; priceless. 😆
I am terrible at games as well, but the competitor in me really loves to play once I start. One of my favorites to play is Risk. I mostly play it with the daughter-in-law when her and my oldest visit.
Fuck man, Risk is an awesome game! I've had games go for a long time and always enjoy
slaying my foesthe process of enjoying the game.I mean winning! 😂
I agree...so does Conan.
Lol...good one!
We use Uno, and other simple thinking games in therapy in an attempt to teach our kids strategy and forward thinking. It's also a big help for patience in turn-taking and social play where initiating and terminating play is important.
This is also one of our favourites for the same reasons.
There is still a lot to be said for kids playing 'old-fashioned' physical games rather than mindless, solo, screen time.
I was brought up without computers and devices,well before them, and I think it was a much better childhood because of it. Uno, and games like it, are a good thing for kids indeed as is failure, forward-focus/strategy. Losing is a good character building experience.
Thanks for your comment.
Also, I challenge you to an Uno contest, don't worry, I'm terrible at it so I'll have plenty of opportunity to learn through losing. 😊
Life is full of ups and down,like playing cards sometimes you have good play and sometimes not good.what matters most how we stand back from our downs and have resilience after and continue playing the journey called LIFE.
Well said, I agree completely.
What a good morning motivational exhortation to learn this morning. It's about 6:52am in Nigeria as at the time I read this. And this is the first post I have read today. Sure, it give grease and fuel to my life.
We shouldn't just give up and give in when the results isn't forth coming at the beginning. The seeming frustrations we encounter are there to strengthen our muscle and sharpen our minds.
Giving up is for losers...best to keep pushing on, finding new and better ways to succeed and getting it done.
You have given a right example because when we play UNO the game might get change unexpectedly and you get more cards in hand when u are about to win and get frustrated, but then again you just need to control you mind and don't give up the game and just play you might get win. The conclusion is don't judge and give up whatever the unexpected situation is.!
One never knows what life might hand out, much like a game of chance like Uno...it's good to understand that and to know how to work around it.
The things which are new for us sometimes prove very knotty even if they are simple. Our mental strength determines whether we become able to cope that frustration. Frustration is natural when dealing with strange,complex and new things. Frustration is not bad at all but getting disheartened after frustration instead of putting more efforts to learn,is bad. Those who keep on fighting frustration ,Resultingly, make their minds very sharp
You say it well, thanks for the addition of your thoughts on this post.
Uno frustration is a very real thing. I suffer it with my wife all the time. Especially when she drops those wild draw fours on me! She plays Uno a lot with the kids that she sees at school. It's one of the tools she uses to get them talking about other things. She's dang good at it (Uno, and her job). I face new concepts and programs that I need to implement. I had one recently that was frustrating the heck out of me. I took a step back, did some more research and I was eventually able to figure it out.
I get slammed playing Uno..I'm like, awesome only two cards left and then I seem to get smashed by draw fours. Everyone I play against must have them stashed up their sleeves!
Haha, that sounds very familiar!
Really enjoyed this! Your thoughts on resilience are inspiring. It’s all about pushing forward. Thanks for sharing!
Thanks, I appreciate you taking the time to read and respond.
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STOPCard games and board games have taught me many things, such as patience, knowing how to lose and how to go on and share. Whatever the circumstance, you can learn, you just have to want to, and even when I have given up, I have learned not to make that mistake again.
Hoka @galenkp, it is clear that by playing your nephew, even as a child, has learned very important and useful things for life.
Since you asked a question, I'll answer you: I don't remember ever giving up. The only time I remember giving up on a project is because once it materialized I realized it wasn't for me. I had invested a lot of time, but I also think you have to know when to pull out of a project and not keep investing more time and effort. In return, I now practice a profession that I love.