Hello, @tarazkp
It's been a while since I've read one of your great posts. My wife is one of those who find it very difficult to sleep deeply. I, on the other hand, usually fall into bed like an oak tree. In fact, I've been like that for as long as I can remember. Only at one stage in my life did I suffer from extreme insomnia. And it is a terrible thing.
Your state after the stroke is quite unique, not to say strange. On the one hand, it helps you sleep, but at the same time, it has taken away the wonder of seeing and feeling through your imagination. You win and lose simultaneously. Well, for those with special conditions, the only thing left to do is to accept and get used to the new reality. In my case, it is tinnitus. It doesn't even bother me anymore.
Yes, you are right, your anecdote will give me food for thought, but not when I go to sleep.
Greetings.
PS: Although my wife has tried hundreds of methods to be able to sleep soundly, sleep eludes her more often than not. Perhaps, she should be treated by some medical specialist. what do I know? What for one is a routine, for others is a feat. Nevertheless, we remain hopeful of overcoming this difficulty.
What do you think is the difference between you and your wife? Men "tend" (observational) to sleep faster than women and I wonder if it is related to what I am writing about here. Women tend to spend their time on practical tasks that are more mundane for the mind, while men spend their time on more complicated, impractical thoughts that make the brain work harder. Massive generalisation without proof, but it seems this way.
You don't know the half of it. One of the issues I now face is I have almost zero motivation to do anything at all, so everything becomes forced by obligation. I know I should or have to do it, so I do. I think it is because without the spontaneous imagination, the "future" doesn't make impact on me.
Does your wife write each day? Keep a journal about daily experiences? I reckon it is worth a try and even if it doesn't help the sleeping situation, it enriches the life in so many other ways.