There are too many people blaming themselves for things they really aren't guilty of.
It is essential to understand that one is guilty, I prefer to say responsible, for the actions with which we intentionally or purposely harm others.
Similarly, we are not responsible for what others think about our lives and actions, nor are we responsible for what we did not do or have not done.
Before forgiving ourselves, it is better to ask ourselves if we have done "something wrong", for example. And before forgiving others, ask ourselves if they did something to us "on purpose" with the desire to fuck us over.
Definitely the wounds that we carry from our childhood, the traumas, the absences in our past can be generating feelings of guilt in ourselves.
Many people believe that they have the right to have an opinion, and tell the truth, they also have the right to criticize and tear one's life apart according to their criteria, really sincerity without empathy is cruelty and does not give us the right to question or criticize anyone's life.
Personally, whoever disrespects me and I see that he mistreats without measuring consequences, I block him and that's it. This is what I apply and period, and I don't feel a bit of guilt, not that it goes!!! It's very exhausting.
Those who act that way carry a lot of frustrations, they enjoy destroying other people, because they reflect their emotional problems in that way.
It seems that self-esteem and personal growth are a cardinal sin. Control has been lost over certain comments that emotionally attack and for this, it is best to dress with a breastplate called "GUILT-FREE SELF-ESTEEM" when we have it destructive criticism slips, so, we have to smear the soul with cosmic butter 😂.
So, if someone is pointing at us and hurting us, what we have to do is block it from all sides, and thus strengthen self-esteem and make it proof of the imbecility of toxic people who love to sow guilt, which does not belong to us.
We have to understand and normalize that growing up, becoming adults and becoming elderly is normal, wrinkles are normal, changing your look, getting fat, losing weight, eating healthy, being vegan, not doing your hair, not dressing up, walking around disorganized, not wearing makeup all the time, enough of that physical perfectionism and pretending to paralyze Kronos, the best thing is to live free and if it's from guilt much better.
An anecdote to conclude my post today...
I remember that my father every time someone came home and the person said for example: "Oh, Mr. Manuel, forgive the mess in the house, my father wisely told them... "If you no.me it says nothing about it, I don't even notice the mess" this anecdote that I tell you in this post was a well-learned lesson that marked me in a positive way when I was just a girl and I understood over the years, that in reality what is NOT mentioned is not given power, and it happens like in baseball "base by ball and no one focuses on that".
We have to find a way to be happy, take care of ourselves and if not.we can help, let's not hurt others.
Respect, tolerance and emotional intelligence are basic to living a fuller life.
Janitze 🌹
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