"Always happy" on social media.
I don't know how they manage it. I've been a couple for years and I haven't always been happy. If they know the trick, they should give us all, that key right? 😬
The truth is that social networks are the breeding ground for people who want or need, for one reason or another, to sell the world the perfection of their lives.
There are more women than men who do that.
And I bet them 100 to 1 that their lives are not even a tenth of what they actually live. Poor people, I feel sorry for them, when they say that online they have many friends and it turns out that in real life they don't have a single real friend!.
I have been married for 47 years and at least once to twice a week there is discussion, differences, disagreements lol, It's like at work, achievements and happy moments are published, failures and sad moments are washed at home.
Although I tell you something friends, as much as possible I try to enjoy all the times, moments as a couple, and each stage lived each, has its brightness and a message for the emotional maturity of both.
47 years of unconditional love, choosing each other every day and fighting shoulder to shoulder, my husband and I have it, we have gone through ups and downs, we have faced illnesses of relatives, of ourselves, parenting, migration, separation due to migration, evolution of our romantic, sensual, physical and sexual love, recently this November 5th my husband's triple bypass and we continue to see each other as the first day.
I can give faith that pure and sincere beautiful love does exist because I have lived it with my parents who are still alive and this December 20th they are celebrating 67 years of marriage, it is a marriage where respect, values and principles have prevailed, I think they, my parents are of the old school, where respect always has to exist, because there are very hard days and good days.
One day we are teachers and another day we are students.
I did not talk about romanticizing my relationship as a couple, nor that of my parents, it is to understand that life is challenging and that as a couple we must know how to be united and support each other through thick and thin.
In the same way...
Nor, I like to use couples as an example, especially because it often happens that we see a deeply happy couple carrying on their relationship very well and, in the end, they end up separated.
By now we are all clear that couples who profess constant happiness on social networks are often couples who have many problems in real life.
In fact, in real life, and I say this from my own experience, maintaining long-term relationships like mine, that of my parents, implies living with a lot of frustration tolerance, having to assume and often endure situations or behaviors for which we constantly have to give our arm to twist, but where communication is fundamental.
In my opinion, a couple should live a full, nurturing and committed romantic relationship. Without effective communication, it is a couple destined to fail.
Janitze.🌷❣️
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
Translation with |DeepL