Important to know ...

I'm right, Angela told me, "I'm going through a horrible grief", when a few days ago, we met in a cafe very close to my house, and she told me about her separation after 15 years of marriage.

Fortunately...

Friends are that family that we choose and, precisely, they are the support and emotional support that we often need when things are not going well in our life.

But we not only have friends for that, we also have friends for partying, for laughter, and for positive emotion. And that's important to keep in mind especially to avoid those "blood sucking" friends who are only with us when they need us.

When Angela tells me that she is living it her own way, her grief, I particularly celebrate the fact that she is looking to her friends for a support network that allows her to feel loved, accepted and loved from the loyalty she so badly needs, especially coming from situations in which that was exactly what she was missing.

I also told her to be careful not to live suffering and to sublimate this depression by the spite that you are going through, friend.

Thank you Angela for trusting me too, we are friends at all times.

In fact, in situations of grief, I have lived it, we often tell our friends that it is important to have a social life that supports us, helps us to structure and endure, especially because from friendship, spite and heartbreak are lived better.

It's the truth, being a couple, being companions on the way, being a team, being mutual support, everything reciprocal, everything as level as possible without unhealthy possessiveness, everything with freedom and respect, it's always better.

If you became someone's partner, it was to be happy, not to live in conflict.

Sometimes, on those days when you feel lost, when you are not clear about who you are or where you are going, that's when you need to choose yourself the most.

Even if you don't always have all the answers, even if you doubt yourself, keep choosing yourself. Because even in your uncertainty, you are worth.

At this time, in this era, individualism is the common denominator and the figures of divorce, separations exceed marriages and relationships of stable couples.

We are living in the era of the absence of commitment. It is an era that mocks romanticism and applauds vulgarity.
Certainly, marriage, the relationship in a couple is based on the "impossible".

Why?

Because, it is impossible for two people to agree, unite, and become one flesh, if we add to this the immoral culture influenced by the nefarious infidelity. So, the eternal act becomes for many a fictional tale.

Two solitudes that come together, they don't take away their loneliness, they just share it. Getting into a relationship to escape loneliness is a common mistake.

Janitze.🌷❣️

Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia

Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva

Translation with |DeepL