I was talking about the topic of forgiveness yesterday with a friend! It is undoubtedly the key to moving forward in life mentally and emotionally healthier when emotional pain leaves us devastated.
When someone hurts us or betrays us, it can cause us a lot of emotional pain and the process of forgiving can require facing this pain and this is difficult for some people, myself included.
In my sense of justice, often, when someone hurts us, we want justice to be done and the person responsible to be punished. Therefore, forgiving can sometimes feel like we are letting go of our need for justice.
Fear of being hurt again.
If we have been hurt in the past, we may be afraid of being hurt again. Forgiving can require opening up again and being vulnerable, which can be difficult.
Sometimes our pride can interfere with our ability to forgive. We may feel that forgiving is a sign of weakness or that we are giving in to the other person and the lack of understanding
It can also happen that we can't forgive because we don't understand why the other person hurt or betrayed us. Without understanding the motivations behind the action, it can be difficult to forgive.
So it could take time to forgive, because the process of forgiveness is very personal. There is no "right" way to forgive, and what works for one person may not work for another.
Forgiveness can be beneficial for our mental and emotional health.
Love deeply, but don't get lost in the process. Your dignity and self-esteem are the compasses that will guide you to relationships where you will be truly free and valued, that can take time.
What you feel about your partner, what you think or say about him or her, what you do to him, you are doing to yourself.
From my experience, in order to forgive, in the couple's relationship, I think, that there is no one perfect, there is the commitment that is based on respect and understanding, which always goes much further than our banal differences.
And as for the things we do not love, they are simply turned away from us without judgment and without including them in our lives.
Sometimes we need to be reminded of things, that although we knew them, it seems that many times we forget them.
Unhappy relationships that are usually born from a self-love that does not exist. And if justice does not come, it is better to risk leaving that "safe" place that generates so much adrenaline, it is like jumping out of a parachute without having done it before.
It is a nonsense that takes away our time and life!
So my friends who read this post, keep in mind that first you have to heal, "forgive" to try again. In real life, that's right, did you have to live it?.
Janitze 🦋
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited with Canva
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