It is better to set limits ...

It's not easy and it costs a lot.

Sometimes they call it selfishness, but everything always has a limit. Even if there are few moments of happiness, I think we can't get carried away with those minutes, and the rest of the day what?

Learning to argue as a couple is like going through a storm without breaking who we are.

Do you know why? Because the storm is not the problem. The problem is how we deal with it.

It's not about winning, or always being right. It's about staying firm in who we are, without getting lost in the process.

Many times, couples break up not because of disagreements, but because of how they handle them. They forget who they are when the wind is blowing hard, especially if the difficulty is money or an illness.

Fundamentally, arguing is not bad. The bad thing is to destroy the other in the process.

It's the same old story: someone stays where they are not wanted, hoping that one day things will change. She settles for crumbs, justifies the unjustifiable, endures whatever it is as long as she is not alone or lonely. And so time passes... until one day he realizes that he lost himself in the attempt.

The truth is that self-love is not a pretty slogan, it's a limit. When you love yourself, you don't accept less than you deserve. Not because you're proud, or because you think you're better than anyone else, but because you just don't feel like suffering anymore for someone who doesn't value you.

Fundamentally, it's not the other person who has to change. It's you, who have to stop begging what should be natural.

And if that costs you, it's not because you ”loved too much", it's because you haven't learned to love yourself enough yet.

Does it hurt to let go? Are we still waiting for something to change? Yes and many times because it is not easy to let go.

Then there's something we need to work on. We don't have to do it alone. And believe me, when we understand our value, everything that does not respect it begins to be superfluous and one will begin to leave behind everyone and everything that hurts us.

And to close... 👇

It all starts with a decision. When we choose, with conviction and from the heart, to live a full life, the Universe conspires in our favor. Opportunities appear, healing happens and paths open up. But first, we must take the plunge.

So, the next time disagreements come, ask yourself: does what I'm about to say strengthen who we are or break it? There's the difference. This can be applied to another type of relationship, be it work, family and friends.

Janitze 💘

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Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited with Canva

Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia

Translation with |DeepL