When life hits...
As a wife I have become an unshakable pillar to face my husband's aorto-coronary disease. But what happens when support doesn't come or when the relationship falters under the weight of difficulties?
When faced with situations of illness or difficulty in life, the commitment should be based on commitment, loyalty and dedication.
This is one of my many lived experiences...
I went through breast cancer and even with my bare head and without my mom, my husband repeated to me every day how cute I looked and how much he loved me. Your support was a blessing on my healing journey! I think that an unconditional surrender of my husband at that time, also speaks of me from my deservedness. It's love in two ways.
I have never felt alone in the struggle, in the midst of difficulty...Thank God. It is a deep love, cultivated over time.
Love is love and it doesn't come out with butterflies flying or jumping in the stomach. Love is the true fuel of many acts big and small. Healing self-esteem and finding happiness requires working on oneself. Let's not settle for being half-loved, we deserve someone who values us completely.
If we feel that something in our relationship is wearing out or that circumstances are testing what we built together... we must take the necessary time to rebuild ourselves and open ourselves to love when we are ready.
Without a doubt, directly and without anesthesia, if we first think about our emotional stability, I assure you that the rest comes, comes alone and without so much sacrifice and suffering.
I think this script, is worthy to stick it on the fridge door 😅 👇
Let's say NO to the affective crumbs. Zero tolerance for disinterest and for abuse. Let's leave spaces for people who really love us.
And as it is difficult for us to understand it, accept it and much more to put it into practice. But when we understand the value we have, everything that "DOES NOT respect us begins to be superfluous".
Especially when the pain is too much, and that's an unmistakable sign that we need something different.
And if we are alone, for the sole fact of "NOT being badly accompanied", then let's take advantage of loneliness to strengthen ourselves from self-esteem.
It really is the best bet and it is not about horse racing, by the way, it is about strengthening, learning to say enough already close the door, so cupid with his very bad aim tries to enter our heart, when it does not suit us.
Our happiness first, above everything, and so, even from self-love we bond better in every way.
Janitze 🌹
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
Translation with |DeepL
Undoubtedly, having a partner in “good times and bad” is a fortune. The human being always needs support in his weak moments, even if he is the strongest person in the world. With love and patience everything is overcome, and if not, at least it can be coped with in the best possible way. Best of health and blessings to you and your husband.
Amen and amen thank you for your empathy and words of strength and faith, I wish it.same.for your life health, peace and well @astrea