It is true, Mr. Taraz, the need to belong leads us to put pressure on ourselves not only to do what others do, or to have what others have, but even to feel what others feel, I think that to get out of this, we just need to listen to ourselves and get out of the herd, that is with a good magnifying glass to observe virtues and differences.
Talk and listen to your daughter so that she learns to choose.
I ma hoping that Smallsteps will come to understand that the herd mentality leads most often to pain now. Safety in numbers only works when those numbers are skilled and caring.
It is also true Mr. Taraz, fortunately, Smallsteps, with this experience you have just lived at school her mindset is learning where the difference is.