You must be so torn, @millycf1976 — wanting to honor your family and your roots, but at the same time wanting to build your life elsewhere, where there is more opportunity and less crime. It sounds like you are making the right choice for you, and it means living elsewhere, even though you carry Jamaica in your heart.
About six years ago I went to do some community service projects in Jamaica and stayed for a week. I was repeatedly told about the crime and how it is unsafe to go anywhere alone. We were in a very rural area, and we stayed in a gated compound. I was very sad to see the amount of poverty the people endured there. Many people were homeless or living in shacks constructed from cardboard and sheets of plastic. It broke my heart. I was wishing that I could do something to help that beautiful country to reclaim itself as one of the earth's jewels, and have enough commerce to support its citizens.
You have summed that up so well @jayna. That's exactly how I feel, and it pains me to leave my parents behind. That's their situation that they cope with and the only way they know, so it would be difficult to "tell" them that life in a safer environment could be better.
Jamaica is one of those places where you either have a little or sufficient to get by, or you don't.
I understand what you felt seeing how some of the people live the way they do, yet at the same time how the other half does.
It's a bittersweet experience that could eat at you if you let it. Years ago I learned to put that in perspective for my health and well-being, but it is tough.
That's the most important thing. We do what we can do in this world, and help others when we can, but when facing systemic issues that would take generations to change, we must consider where we can effectively spend our energy.
Maybe when your parents are ready to retire, you can convince them to sell the plantation and enjoy their later years with you!
Oh, my parents retired many years ago, they are both coming up to 80 years soon.
Luckily my mum spends her days tending to her garden. She's an energy buddy 😆. I can't see any of them living in a cold country at all. My parents are always happy for us to visit, however, it's difficult for us when we are restricted as to where we can go.
Oh my, I didn't realize they were getting on in years. They look good! Well then I can especially see why it is extra hard to leave them when you visit. Well, I'm not sure how, but I hope there's a way for Jamaica to become a safer place to visit again.
My parents would be pleased to hear that😊
I really hope so. 🤞🙏