Well I'm single and don't have enough knowledge about couple relationships and goals. I'm a student yet and and I didn't want any these type of things.
But I think respect is more important than love in a relationship if you respect your spouse than you definitely love her/him . Attentions are secondly important we have to stand with our family it's a good in a relationship I think
Respect is needed, but not the kind of respect that people give their elders etc - it is different in a healthy relationship. Respect also has to be earned.