if I were really smart, it would all come naturally
And I wish.. parents and future parents would never say these kinds of things to their children.....
What lies that shaped you and affected you mentally?
This morning, I came across a post on X that talks about how gifted students graduated highschool without developing a good study habit. Somehow, I resonated with that as I grew up being told that truly smart people don't need to study and they just "get" it. Consider me silly believing in that but I did and even during university days, I still heard something like that.
It all began at the age of 3 - I already started my schooling, I was expected to know all sorts of things from politics to language and math. Most kids who grew up with me don't have ambitious parents like my mom and dad. Their goal early in life was simply ensuring me to pursue graduate programs since that means I was a step ahead of them. Like most ambitious Asian moms, she attempted to make a good portfolio out of me but like any other kid, I dislike "studying. I do love to read but sitting down isn't my forte.
My mom never taught me the "why" of studying, I was just tasked to memorize things until very late at night, sometimes as late as 2 AM. Then at school, while I was doing great academically and always in the top 5, most of my peers would say something like " I mean, if you're really smart, you don't have to study". Throughout my life that stuck to me and whenever I am attempting to sit down and study, I felt like the stupidest people on earth and even more during exam weeks, I always heard things like " oh, look at him/her, they don't really study and got a highscore" and so, I always felt some sort of guilt and shame when I studied.
Did I do well without studying or any attempt during exams? I did, especially the subjects that don't require much effort like history, economy, biology, sociology, language, informatics and religion but when it comes to chemistry and math, safe to say I did pretty mediocre. Like I know my way around it but it's almost impossible to get anything above 90 without any studying at all.
Even during my teenage days, studying wasn't really something I truly developed. I tried but I wasn't as good as my peers at the time. We all graduated and I got into the top 3 universities in the country pretty painlessly too. I felt like I wasn't studying that hard and at university, I breezed my way up but I was still surrounded by people who guilt and shamed me for studying.
During exam week, my peers would have come to me. They would listen to my lecture about any concept in plain and simple language. I loved it because it helped me refresh my knowledge of the subject. I did pretty well in them but the people I hung out with kept saying things like " oh, they don't study, and still got the same score as you are".
I wished I knew better then....
I got to know a few people who were growing up being told they won't amount to anything and developed an extremely great studying habit. I admired them so much since studying also teaches us the value of resilience, humility and persistence.Those valuable skills are important to have as adults because life is full of problems at every corner and those are values that could keep us sane.
The single lie that was never corrected somehow impacted my adulthood too as I really lack those things. It took me a couple of years deprogramming myself and learned that studying has no age limit too. It's a lifelong skill and it's good to develop a good studying method since the soft skills earned from those habits can be beneficial dealing with life's problem and stress.
In another note :
I recently enjoyed digital scrapbooking using canva. So, those are some of my works using canva. I find it really fun and they make great thumbnails too for my hive posts.
 | 𝘔𝘢𝘤 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘰𝘺𝘦𝘥 𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘫𝘢 & 𝘤𝘰𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘶𝘳 . 𝘈 𝘵𝘺𝘱𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦, 𝘣𝘰𝘰𝘬𝘴, 𝘵𝘦𝘤𝘩𝘯𝘰𝘭𝘰𝘨𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘰𝘱𝘩𝘺. 𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘣𝘭𝘰𝘨, 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘭𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘭𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘳𝘴𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘭𝘦𝘥𝘨𝘦. 𝘚𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘣𝘰𝘰𝘬𝘴, 𝘮𝘰𝘷𝘪𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸𝘴, 𝘵𝘦𝘤𝘩 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴, 𝘱𝘩𝘰𝘵𝘰𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘱𝘩𝘺, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘥𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘭𝘰𝘱𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵. 𝘖𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘣𝘭𝘶𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘰𝘯, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘷𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘪𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘪𝘯 𝘭𝘰𝘤𝘢𝘭 𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘥𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴 𝘴𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘺. 𝘚𝘩𝘦'𝘴 𝘢𝘯 𝘰𝘤𝘤𝘢𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘧𝘰𝘰𝘥𝘪𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘭𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘳𝘺 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴. 𝘍𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸 𝘢𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘥𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘫𝘰𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯! 𝘋𝘰𝘯'𝘵 𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘶𝘱𝘷𝘰𝘵𝘦, 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘰𝘳 𝘢 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬. 𝘈 𝘳𝘦-𝘣𝘭𝘰𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘴𝘰 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰𝘰. |
Why do I feel dumb after reading this?😂. I had to study my biology textbooks over and over and over before it stuck to my brain. Reason why I switched from science to art 🤧.
I think we've all been told that intelligence is innate. While this may somehow be true, studying after normal classes is the real deal.
Biology was my strong subject 😂 and since I was elementary, I competed in biology and general science competition. My mom made me remember summary of biology book since I was like 8, so throughout my highschool, it was always a breeze. I chose art and social science though because they made me have more time to learn tech on my own, which I kind of regret haha
I always admire those that have strong study skills, it's definitely the real deal. Like one can be smart and all but there's a cap to our knowledge. That's when humility and curiosity to learn help and comes in.
Okay let's switch brains for a year. Hahaha.
Some lies can really have a big impact on someone's lives isn't it?
at least you now you have your first-hand experience, and you could stop that kind of lie at you, and nurture your future kids differently in the future. : ) But studying until 2 A.M was a little bit too much I think, as you need to rest to study at school on the next day.
I definitely would tell my future kids to study hard even if they were naturally good at certain things. The worst part was school was starting at 5:30 hahaha so, you know I had too little sleep and I actually would take a nap at school since we'd go back at around 1 PM. Thankfully, these days school starts a little late haha and there's also online learning that would make things a little better for most kids these days.
I can relate to this. I used to think smart people didn’t need to study because of how bright they were, which made me feel guilty. I’ve since learned the value of good study habits, which has really helped me, and I am passing it on to my younger ones. Thanks for sharing. Enjoy your weekend.
There's some good value with a good studying habits. I wished I learned it sooner.
Yeah, you are right. There are things we should have known earlier, but we didn't, but better late than never.
Having study habits leads to better results. 😊 I experienced it firsthand.😊
For sure! it's better to study and build all the soft skills along the way.
Your thumbnails are looking cool. I like Canva too.
I was bright growing up and hardly studied until the last few years of high school, by which time I was distracted by other things and stuffed up a bit. Even the smart kids need to study - I don't believe anyone that says they 'hardly studied' - chances are that's a lie.
😄 thank you! a new hobby unlocked. " chances are that's a lie." that's something I needed to hear growing up, nobody told me haha until I learned otherwise very late in life and by observing some of my peers too, that even those who said such, they studied! the irony haha