When a friend was visiting a couple weeks back, he bought a Lego kit heart for Smallsteps to build, which she finally finished today. Not because she couldn't do it faster, but because she didn't want to do it alone and when we had the time, we have been doing other things together instead. But after cleaning the house, I sat down with her and we decorated the heart together.
It is now hanging on her door.
Besides the house cleaning, we are having a bit of a different Saturday, and we will head out to a farm in the evening where they have set up some kind of cornfield maze that can be done by kids with torches. It will be quite late though, as it still isn't getting that dark here very early, with the sun setting at around half past seven in the evening. We are taking one of Smallsteps friends with us also, and I am pretty sure that they won't care and might be happier if it isn't completely dark.
There is no way I would have walked through a sugarcane field in Australia at night.
I will take the camera to see if I can manage to get some cool shots, but I imagine that we won't be the only ones there and, I have no idea what kind of thing it really will be. Better to have the camera with though, just in case. I am always on the hunt for interesting shots, but perhaps I don't have the eye for them, or perhaps I am too judgmental of what I do capture, because I feel I often fall short.
Many might feel this though.
I tend to understate my own accomplishments and I was told the other day at work by my supervisor that I need to put more visibility on what I am doing, even if I am making impact in the areas I should be. I get this, but at the same time, I am not the kind of person that is going to advertise myself and mention all the things I get up to at work. It feels stupid for me to do so. Yet, if it is costing me promotions and pay rises, perhaps I should just swallow my pride and be a bit more obvious.
This is a pattern that has been with me since childhood though, because I strongly dislike being in the spotlight, being the center of attention, even if it is for positive accomplishments. I have always placed myself on the peripheries, like when I played sports I fed the ball to the "stars" even though I knew I could take it myself if I chose. Maybe had I looked to stand out rather than blend in, I might have chosen a different path forward in life.
Would I want Smallsteps to follow in my footsteps?
I don't think so.
Even if she fails publicly, I would want her to give things a go and if she was good at something, back herself. I feel that a lot of people tend to back themselves these days without actually having the skills or talent, rather relying on their opinion of their ability instead. I see it in the workplaces too, where people are supported who big-note themselves and their accomplishments, even if they aren't making much of an impact at all. This of course doesn't work when data is involved to back it up or prove it false, but a lot of the internal politics in companies isn't data-driven, it is opinion based.
In my opinion...
As those who read me often know, I am often talking about value and meaning and while the topics might change, the ultimate goal is to improve wellbeing. There are many factors required to do this, but they should all try to support that end goal.
For instance, as I was saying to my supervisor the other day, it isn't good enough to make an impact at work, if that impact isn't leading to me making an impact on my personal life. It isn't good enough to improve working life, if it comes at the expense of overall wellbeing. Work brings more than money, but a major part of the reason to work is to facilitate possibility in personal life. Because of this, I should probably make my impacts more transparent, more obvious, so those who influence my salary, will be essentially forced to push it up due to the impact it makes.
Sometimes I wonder what the distribution of money would look like if it was based on positive impact on society. Would the nurses and teachers get paid more? Would the financial traders get paid at all? What is pretty clear in society though is, we reward those who are the best at generating income, because that is something that is clear to see, there are numbers involved. For the impacts that matter on what is actually valuable in our lives however, there probably aren't clear numbers.
On a scale of 0-100:
How valued are you by others?
How much meaning do you have in life?
How much health do you have?
How stable is your community?
How positive are you about your future?
How much do you feel loved?
How much do you love?
Opinions.
Taraz
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The heart looks beautiful ❤️.
You forgot the producers. Their needs to be increased. Generally there are economically weaker than others. Though they produce the very basic needs of survival, they are poor.
I didn't give many examples, because there are so many to give. There are plenty of people working hard for too little. And many working hard for little impact too.
Yeah and this is called being a servant of a derogatory system. The point is that many work hard only to die whereas some take only negligible stress to live luxurious. I find it very pity.
In most of those questions the answer is the same: Could be better, could be worse. Talking about health I am just glad that I am not paralyzed/ and I still have some kind of memory. even if it is not great some memory is still nice to have.
If not the world without them would be a strange place. Even more than it is now...
Imagine a world where value was attached 1:1 with trade, rather than all the derivatives that make up three quarters of all the "wealth" in the world.
I am valued by others, as I work hard and help many.
I try to find meaning in life, but sometimes I fail.
I am mostly well, with few age-related health issues.
The community is quite stable, but not very close to me.
I am positive about the future, as I can manifest the expected outcome, even if sometimes I need to work for that to happen.
I know some people love me and some admire me, but I can not always return the same feelings 24/7, and I try to ignore the ones rising my alarm.
How is that?
They are answers, but are there definitive numbers? This is the "problem" with so much of importance in our life, right? The world of business acts on numbers and that is what we get accustomed to using as measures. When there are no numbers, quantifying improvement or degradation comes down to ambiguous opinion.
Is is all about all of us interpreting the world in a personal manner, in the end.
Yes it is. Even though we aren't "made for numbers" we get trained to evaluate based on them. It is a very poor methodology, but we like to see the numbers move.
Is is all about all of us interpreting the world in a personal manner, in the end.
I think my wife would make a lot more than she currently does if that were the case. Probably depends on who you talk to really. There are plenty of people who hate her I am sure. We have corn mazes over here. I think a sugar cane maze would be interesting.
Sugar cane maze might be great - but it is the spiders and snakes of the tropics that would stop me from entering one :)
Yeah, that is probably a good pointñ
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STOPAww that's cute XD Does she also have her name on her door somewhere? :D
I randomly read random crap on my phone while eating lunch (if not rpghorrorstories I'll search something semi-random) and this time it was an article on why making positive changes is really hard (basically brain feedback loop hates discomfort etc) and it sounds like there's a bit of that going on which you'd be aware of because you write about it in some form or other pretty much all the time XD Anyway are you happy with where you're at or do you think you're going to change it up? :)
A lot of things are "immeasurable" and that seems to make people mad when all they want is big number go up.
You're Australian; self-aggrandisement just isn't in our nature. Even handsome Aussies like me really struggle with it.