and I demand that from those who know me
Isn't this an imposition of belief?
Life is about tolerating and being tolerated.
I am not so sure. Toleration isn't the same as acceptance. Toleration tends to fall apart when there is the chance to stop tolerating. I reckon a lot of the "racism is over in the US" is more that toleration took hold, rather than actual progress.
No, it is teaching with values. We can't confuse values with beliefs, can we…?
Demanding from others isn't teaching values, it is imposing will. What punishment do you impose if you feel if your demands aren't being met?