Then there are times when she thinks it is totally okay, so I am guessing it is situation specific.
It depends on the child. If they have been raised to be fearful, or avoided death altogether like many I know, then they might not be ready for a funeral, and the parent not ready for the feelings and questions to follow. For me, death was just part of life. I think I was around Smallsteps' age when I went to my first funeral, for my mum's best friend who died of cancer. It was sad, but not bad.
I don't know, I just work on computers all day!
I used to! ;D
I remember being little and having to be a pall bearer for some relative I hardly knew. It was honestly quite traumatizing, so I kind of get it.