No matter the situation or condition you find yourself in, it will surely pass. Nothing in this life is ever permanent. No matter how terrible the situation might seem or look, you will surely get through it. However, while it is always good to be optimistic and have self-belief that everything will be fine in the end, just as the popular saying goes, there is light at the end of the tunnel, some situations can feel overwhelming and consuming. Some people have to deal with the trauma of their experiences for a long time. Some even die just as they are getting close to their breakthrough.
In this life of ours, there is no manual on how we should live. Just because something works for A doesn't mean it will work for B in the same way. Nothing is certain in life; the only certainty is death, which will overtake us one day. Besides that, nothing else is guaranteed. I believe this is where the supremacy of God comes into play. Since no one can predict exactly when their death will come, it is important to acknowledge that there is a power beyond us in the physical realm, something beyond our reasoning.
In difficult times, there is more to life than just feeding and taking care of the home. People are going through a lot. I have friends who have been deeply affected by their struggles.
For example, I know someone whose wife keeps having complications during pregnancy, to the extent that she has had to undergo evacuation three times, ranging from three months to five months. At one point, he questioned whether he had done anything terrible, such as hurting someone or committing an offence in the past, to deserve such painful experiences. How does one even respond to that? I could only tell him that our ways are not God’s ways and encourage him to keep praying, which I know he is already doing. But how else can I comfort him? He said he never signed up for what is happening to him. All I could say was that no one signs up for bad things to happen to them. We just have to endure difficult times and remain hopeful for greater things ahead.
I also have a friend who has been married for about four years but has not yet conceived. She constantly complains about the insults she receives from her husband's family, as well as the mockery from her friends and colleagues. I had to encourage her not to give room to negativity and to believe that she would have her own child soon. Everything happens for a reason, even if we don’t always understand why.
On the other hand, I have another friend who is facing issues in her marriage, though in her case, it is her own actions that caused the problem. She believes she is above her husband simply because she earns more than him, and she expects him to handle the cleaning and cooking. I had to advise her to respect her husband and work towards building a harmonious home. He has done nothing wrong to deserve such treatment. I just hope she changes for the better.