I live in a place where there is a rich tapestry of people. From all walks of life, from all corners of the world. A place where everyone is free to be, who they are. A melting pot of artists, healers, musicians, locals, addicts. Where you get to see people at their creative highs and their lows. Lots of free living folk, who wanted to escape the matrix. Some running away to hide, whilst others want to create a better life. Where there is an overlap of different cultures and personalities. Which is how I like it.
It may be a small town, but there is always so much happening, because of the wonderful diversity of the people living in and around here. People fascinate me, their stories, their beliefs, their paths. The decisions that we make and how those decisions carve our lives. How some, run away from the responsibility that comes from those decisions, because of fear, pain, ignorance. Whilst others step into their power because of the choices they make.
It's difficult watching people, who are not able to pick themselves back up again. Who have fallen into a pit of sorts and rely on others, to get them back up, onto the path they have put themselves on. How much should we assist though? To keep people on a path of self destruction. In a way, lifting them, is counter productive. I find it difficult to watch someone suffer, yet I also don't want to enable them. Help them continue to hurt themselves, be it from drugs, alcohol, fear. Fear that feeds into their insecurities and cripples them. Helping them to get to the surface again, knowing that what they really need, is to believe they can do it themselves. Lift themselves up.
Where do you draw the line. Because we all know, that you can not really help someone, unless they want to help themselves. Yes we can act like plasters, but each time the wound gets deeper. The cycle of suffering continues. I find it really sad, watching someone wasting their gift of life. Seeing the pain in their eyes, as they seem to wrestle with life.
I know suffering is a part of life, it's a part of our journey, our learning. But it shouldn't play the leading role. We should be able to move past it, learn from it, have the desire and strength to overcome it. Not let it consume us. I struggle sometimes, with how much I should help, can help. Sometimes I walk away, but what a privilege it is, that I can. I have no idea what addiction is like, I only know what it's like, having a relationship with someone who is an addict. It's difficult, very difficult, heartbreaking really, when you have to walk away, because there is nothing you can do.
But I also know what it is like, to stand by, to walk with someone and get to see them finally accept help and in doing so help themselves. Taking that step for themselves and not for anyone else. It's just difficult to think of those who couldn't do that and for all I know continue to suffer to this day. To not think, maybe, if I had just stuck with them a little bit longer. I guess I will never know.
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That's a really good question - where do you draw the line? I think where it starts affecting you on an unbearable emotional/psychological level is a good place. At a certain point, it doesn't help anyone if you're losing yourself (and making yourself miserable) trying to save someone who won't be saved. But... it's easier said than done. Thanks for the food for thought! :)
As you know I've lived in communitys before and there's always someone who finds it hard to get off the path of destruction they have always been on. The patterns of mind that they've worn are pretty set and it's almost impossible to shift them unless it's just a temporary thing to calm them down for a bit.
This was hard to read for a few reasons. Reasons like I could relate to this so deeply and how hard it hit home seeing someone you truly want to help suffer because they have refused to help themselves. Seeing yourself help so much that you're beginning to drown in their own pool of destruction. Where, indeed, do we draw the line? I'll reflect on this and maybe take a final decision. Thank you for this, friend.🫶🏾
Sometimes the best thing that can happen to people is for them to fall flat on their faces, because it's a wakeup call. Your area sounds a lot like where I live. 😁🙏💚✨🤙
A small town community where people know one another and get along, would be wonderful to live in.
To help and be helped knowing it is for being kind, of course as you said someone needs to want to be helped.
It is always best to try deal with anything thrown at you in life, but sometomes an escape is just easier to cope.
Great write up and something to get people thinking