Good tags, I will use them!
Fear is the biggest issue. People are afraid to change old patterns.I know that so many adults still fear a serious conversation with their parent. A lot of the trauma and bad decision making come from the unhealed wounds.
The time is never right if you think with fear. We always can find an excuse to lock things up and accept the status quo. This is how it has always been and that is it.
In a world where more people are depressed, I think that taking a closer look to mental health and patterns is so very important. A child needs two parents who can function in a normal healthy way. Imagine how a society will end up if the majority of couples are unhealthy emotionally, creating more trauma further down the road. A spiral of pain.
I observe myself, I observe my choices. I can understand so much more with the passing of time. A great motivator in making changes and having tough conversations is the fact that life is trully short. We can both not be here tomorrow. How many things left unsaid would remain? How many dreams not accomplished? How much love never shared or received?
I guess that waiting is a game where you can never win because you keep on returning in the same house of pain you have been living. If we become aware of the trauma and heal, we will most likely change the entire house and enter other doors. It is just a matter of awakening.
Thank you for reading!
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It always depends on the trauma and I wouldn't talk about it with my parents. But I forgave and made my peace, at least for now. I cannot turn back time and the mistakes they made I have to live with, so do they. Talking wouldn't help in that case.
True, but there are times for certain things. It sometimes is not a bad thing to push stuff away but sooner or later it will creep up again.
That would be the ideal case, but you can also be healthy and normal with just one parent. It's more a matter of love, care and empathy.
It's a diverse topic and each individual carries its own burden and therefor own way of dealing with stuff. That's why I like Alfred Adler. He founded the Indivdual Psychology where every single person with its different experiences is taken into account. Psychology is just as diverse as each person on this planet.
Great writing though, enjoyed reading it 🤗
Being able to forgive without being able to sort things out.... This is a tough one and I can admire people who manage to do this without having tension and anger inside. It is very difficult.
Kids do need parents, but often enough it happens that they don't have them around. Mentally or physically. My grandmother raised me and my sister as soon as my parents separated and she did a great job. I would not be what I am today if she wouldn't have taken the burden. It helps if one parent can be responsible, but if both of them are, the kids are lucky to have anyone take care of them. Single parenting is tough and it takes a lot of effort, my hats off in front of anyone doing that because I have seen it with my own eyes at my grandmother.
Thank you for reading and have a great week ahead🤗💐