instead the absence of a thing
Yes. My thing today was my husband.
'Do you need a hand weeding?'
'No thanks, I'd rather be on my own'
Mainly as he'd been grumpy and making me anxious all morning! End of term stress, and I pick up on his energy which was NOT working well with my own.
So yes. Sometimes the pleasure is absolutely in the absence of things. A very clever response! Loved it, thankyou!
Interesting: What we want most, sometimes, is the absence of things. Distractions. Stressors.
What do you want for Mother's day? "No fighting amongst you kids. No whining."
Oddly, that was one gift they could never give me. Until they all left home.
No phone while gardening - excellent idea.
Not that long, we grew up in a phone-free world.
The idea of people being free to call us anywhere, anytime, even while we're on vacation, would have seemed unbelievable to us. I'm so old, I remember when we thought the picture phone might occur in our lifetime. Now we FaceTime and video-call and Zoom people all over the planet.
And how many times did the mom step out of the shower in just a towel and walk into the room while the kid was in school via Zoom...
I often say that if my husband would have just left me alone now and then, and taken the kids with him, the marriage would have lasted longer than 27 years.
Thanks for your appreciation! And for all you do!
Aw, thankyou!
Geez, if only men were more considerate, no one would get divorced....