"WHY LEAVE JAPAN FOR GOOD?" 🇯🇵
This is probably a question I was asked for maybe a thousand times since I decided to go home for good 3 months ago. I always get a look of disbelief from people everytime they hear that I decided not to go back. That, along with these:
"Why give up being an OFW?"
"Isn't life wayyyyyy better there?"
"Ha? Dili naka mubalik? Nganu!?"
"Sayang! Kanindot sa opportunities didto!"
I even had this 1-hour conversation with a Nepalist in a restaurant in Tokyo, with him convincing me not to push through with my decision because according to him; "Life in Japan is better" and I am making my biggest mistake.
To be honest, I am tireddddd of answering these same questions over and over again because that would mean me trying to explain to people that I am not lowering my lifestyle and definitely not destroying my future. But I have to say, I am not surprised. For 3rd-world countries like ours, life abroad always means better. Instead of ignoring them and their questions, I always always ask them this question back;
What are your goals in life? Because for me, our goals should be our guide as to what our decisions in life should be, not society's standards and expectations.
So, what are your goals in life? I asked them then I will continue with; "Perhaps staying is your goal and that's great! Congratulations, but we don't share the same goals and vision for our lives because these are mine."
- Get old and serve my hometown, Hilongos
- A serene life close to nature
- A life close to family (and our dogs haha);
- Flexibility with my time
- An abundant life
- To pursue my passions and advocacies, a life with a purpose
As I got older, these goals became clearer and clearer to me. The more I listened to my heart, the softer the noise of the world became. One night, 4 years ago, I asked myself; "Why will I still choose to stay?"
It took me 4 years to device and execute my Grand Plan of freeing myself because of course, underprivileged and breadwinners like me couldn't just give things up overnight but yes, here I am now. I am home.
There is no shame in leaving, quitting or saying 'no' to things that no longer align to our goals and to who we are. There is no shame in that, only bravery and respect. As cliché as this may sound but, in this fast-paced world, please have the courage to live your life to the fullest!
Yours sincerely,
𝓓𝓪𝓷𝓪
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Love lots, Ate Dan! 🥰
My dilemma is different. I believe that there's more opportunity out there, away from home but I couldn't leave my parents who are both senior citizens. Pa is 78yr old and Ma's turning 69 this month. I feel that there's so little time before they're gone for good. And I have to make the most while they're still here. Teary-eyed while writing this because I couldn't imagine a life without them. 🥺
Sometimes, I overthink if this decision to not move out of Cebu will be my life's greatest regret in the future. And it's a different kind of sacrifice, when you have dreams and you know you can be bigger but you decide to be where you are. But every time I go home and see how my presence fills Ma with joy as if she just won a million. It's priceless.
My goal is to be happy and at peace regardless of what the world says. I can proudly say I'm right where I should be. Let's continue spreading this vibe that it's okay to be who we want to be even if the world around us tells us otherwise. ❤️
When are you coming to Cebu? I'm not in Facebook na hehe 😘🥰
@patsitivity!!!!! Awwweee, thank you for always cheering me on! ❤️
Thanks for sharing this part of you here, Pat. I didn't know about this part of you and I feel privileged that you get to share this with us here. You know what, I've been all around for 13 years. Most travels locally and abroad, I was on my own. While I would say those experiences were life-changing to me, nothing compares to the joy I feel whenever I get to share those experiences with loved ones. For me, the most difficult part was going home. 😞 I stay far away for months or years then everytime I went home, I could see my brother and sister growing up. When I left, my brother was still in Grade 2 then suddenly he's now in High School, all grown up. I wasn't even there in their birthdays or graduations. I would notice my parents' getting older and older everytime I go homeー their hair turning gray. For me, that's the most painful part; knowing how much time has passed and how many precious moments you were not able to experience with them. Maong karun, bumabawi kaayo ko nila sa 13 years nga wala gyud mi naka spend time together, atleast naa pa sila tanan diri naa pakoy chance mubawi. ❤️
I affirm your decision, Pat! You are doing very well and I am very proud of you! ❤️
Yes, padayon ta! Mag chat nya ko sa Discord if mag Cebu ko nya di ra kaayo hectic akong sched! Medj gulo gulong buhay pagyud! See you puhon! ❤️
There is no place like Home. I'm proud of you, I bet it was a tough decision to make but hey you're now there, you made it. I wish you all the best and YES, keep living life to the FULLEST! 🙂
Awwweeee thank youuuuuu for the encouragement, @yzamazing! I very much appreciate it. Indeed, cheers to living life to the fullest! ❤️🥂
Welcome home.
Awwweee thank you so much! 🦋
Hello @danaperez, if it makes you happy, then probably it's the best decision you have ever made☺️ Natingala ko dugay ko nawala, mao diay. Duol ra kaayo ta ba, gimingaw nasad kaayo dihaa sa ato ug hoping mag for good pud ko sa atoa.
I'm so happy for you, brave kaajo ka nga pagka bajeha uyy☺️ Unta ako pud, puhon. ❤️
Yesssss, nabaw pagyud kog adjust sa tanan2x. Hopefully I can go back to being active here in PeakD very soon! I miss the community as well!Awwweeee thank youuuuuu for the encouragement, @labanez! ❤️
Yes, laban lang! Maka uli rasad ka puhon2x! Ikaw pa! Looking forward to meet up with you here as well! See you nya puhon! ❤️
wow! I first read this on your Facebook post. I admire your courage and bravery🫰💕 Not everyone can do it and you are an inspiration to someone who wanted to find some courage to do what her heart desires despite all the feedback amongst her circle.
For me, to be able to find peace in your heart and to go back to the place you call home is what really matters.
Sending you all the love from Cebu💕🥂
Xoxo,
Rica
P.S. This is my new account here in hive💕
Awwweeee thank youuuuuu for the encouragement, @sassy.cebuana! I am happy that perhaps in one way or another my writing was able to give hope to people. After all, that's the reason why I penned the post. ❤️
Oh yes, I can still remember that I added you on Facebook! It's great that we were able to connect there as well. I just gave this new account a follow! Cheers! ❤️🥂
Welcome home, brave soul! So proud of what you did even though there's a ton of folks saying that you are letting such opportunities go away.
I always believe that there's a ton of opportunities here in our country too thus going abroad to work was never an option and with the current trend that we have right now a superb internet connection can bring a good sum of money given the effort and knowledge that you had accumulated.
Money can always be earned but the missed time spent with your loved ones those are the things that you cannot go back to regardless of the money earned.
So sa desisyon mong unahin ang pamilya tama iyan.
Awwweeee thank youuuuuu for the encouragement, @tpkidkai! I very much appreciate it. ❤️
I agree! As long as you have the skills or if you are willing to learn the necessary skills, there are so much opportunities in the country now that online jobs are a trend. Forever grateful as well to these opportunities because through them, I was able to speed up my plans of going home. I pray that many Filipinos can also take advantage of this trend because living wages in the country is no long "living wages" anymore. 😞
You place is so beautiful!
Awwweee thank you so much! 🦋
This is beautiful!☺☺ i'm from Leyte too. Japan is a great country but it probably gets lonlier there when you're so far from your family.
Awwweee thank you so much! 🦋 Yes, it definitely gets super lonely, especially during the pandemic. I didn't have much chances to go out since we were required to work from home. 😞
I am Proud of you . If you possible try it.
Awwweeee thank youuuuuu for the encouragement, @sujitsawant! I very much appreciate it. ❤️
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Well written and beautifully said. We have to follow our dreams and what is in our hearts to have contentment in our lives.
Thanks for the read, @watusiwoman! Indeed, the path is clearer if we follow our heart. ❤️