Hello everyone, happy Sunday! Today, I’ll be talking about “ Why Some People Don’t Need Many Friends.”
In our society today, there is frequently a strong sense of the importance of friendships and social connections. Nevertheless, it is important to know that not everyone thrives when it comes to social environments, and that is very okay. The idea that we all need friends or a large circle to be happy is a misconception. I want us to understand that for some people, being alone can be just as satisfying, and having fewer relationships can be better than having many.
As for me, I have grown up understanding life to some extent. Even though I was very young, I grasped things early because of my environment. I remember vividly that even before I turned 15, my mum would sit me down to seek advice, and everyone I spoke to would tell me how much knowledge I had and how sensible my thoughts were. What I'm trying to say is that I understand life enough to realize that while I was still growing up, I never had a friend who fit my definition of true friendship. Don’t get me wrong, I have people I talk to, but they don’t meet my definition of friendship. I have classmates and acquaintances, and I hope you understand what I mean.
Fast forward to when I entered university, I had classmates with whom I would talk, laugh, and attend lectures, but I still didn’t consider them friends, they were just classmates. Nowadays, it seems everyone calls everyone their friend, and that feels a bit strange to me. Honestly, the way I see people relate to each other behind their backs has given me trust issues about having friends. I’m not saying there aren’t true friendships out there, but I believe that out of 100, about 80 percent aren’t real.
I know two friends who were close and confided in each other. They were so close that they did almost everything together. One day, when one of them shared something her friend had told her, I paused and asked if her friend had asked her to tell me or anyone else. The answer was no. I was like, why are you doing this? That person trusted you and confided in you, and here you are sharing it, which is not okay. So, it’s hard for me to have friends. I have not had any bad experiences, but I just have not ever found that true friendship. I have not given anyone chances tho, but I’m very much ok with it for now.
Some friendships are not true friendships. Mind you, there are friendships out there that are good and they have brought goodness to one other. It is just that sometimes, people are friends just because it is easy or because they hang out in the same group, but that does not mean they care about each other. These friendships can feel shallow, where it is more about showing off than real support or understanding.
Sometimes, people might only be there when things are good but vanish when times get tough. True friends are those who stick around no matter what and offer help and understanding. It’s important to see the difference and focus on making real connections that matter, instead of just having a lot of acquaintances. Real friendships should be built on trust, loyalty, and genuine care for each other.
Now let us go back to society thinking that needing a lot of friends can make us feel inadequate or pressured to fit in. Social media always shows big gatherings and perfect friendships, but those images are often staged and not real life. And this can make people feel like they have to keep friendships that don't make them happy, causing stress and dissatisfaction. Realizing that it's okay to have a small circle or to enjoy being alone can be freeing.
Also, not all relationships are good for us, some can be toxic and drain our energy. It's okay to step back from people who do not support us as a way of taking care of ourselves. Focusing on having a few supportive friends, even if there are not many, can lead to a happier life.
In the end, the idea that everyone needs a large group of friends isn't true for everyone. Each person has different needs when it comes to socializing. Whether you prefer being alone, have a few close friends, or enjoy being social, what matters is finding what makes you happy. Accepting our differences in how we connect with others can help us understand relationships better. It's important to respect our own needs and choose what feels right for us, whether that means enjoying solitude or having a few meaningful friendships.
In conclusion, not everyone needs a lot of friends or a big social circle. Everyone has different needs and likes when it comes to socializing. Some people are happy alone, some enjoy a few close friends, and others like being around many people. What’s important is finding what makes us happy. Accepting our different social needs helps us understand each other better. It’s important to respect what we each prefer, whether that’s enjoying alone time or having a few close connections. And please don’t get me wrong this is not me saying friendship or having a friend is bad, I am just saying that it doesn’t work for everyone, and not everyone needs it. We do not all need many friends or people around. And for those who have friendships that work, I’m happy for you all. Please value that.
Thanks for your time.
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I have this bro who was always talking to this girl online. This girl would spend the day abusing and being toxic to this guy but when you asked him why he still talks to her he'll say he doesn't want to be alone. It felt felt because I think sometimes people would rather have fake and toxic people because of the fear of being alone.
Some people just have low self-esteem esteem. Why would you be scared of staying alone? Sometimes we discover ourselves when we are alone because we're able to think.