Morning guys, 2 more days to have Chinese New Year Holiday here, I’d say I can’t wait for the holiday if there’s no pandemic, now I’d say, what the hell can I do at home in the coming 10 days? Forget it, just think about it when I am in Holiday!
Some of you might already know that I always scatter dog food here (display affection with my wife), well, today I am going to show you something else other than just scatter dog food, just like the other couple, we do argue sometimes (as I remember we argued less than 10 times in the past decade, in average we argue once a year, not too bad, huh?)
Time is going back to Dec 2019, my wife suggested we better take a walk outside instead of staying home to watch movies only. We went out at the morning at 11:00 am something heading to the Sea World Plaza.
Everything was good even we were having lunch at the Mexico restaurant, suddenly my wife got a work phone call while we were walking around the Plaza, she was really focus into the phone call and simply ignored me, I tried to ask where should we go and she didn’t reply either. Couldn’t remember how long did she talk on the phone with her workmate, somehow I suddenly went out of control and turned into bad face to her while she was still on the phone. Even worse I started argued with her after she had done for the phone call…
Absolutely I was nearly ruining our weekend, fortunately I ended up back to normal and tried to make a concession to her, but I could see that she doesn’t really in good mood anymore of course.
Well, suddenly some stupid idea struck to my mind, I figured out that she said the ice cream cone in McDonald looks nice, then I asked her to get the ice cream cone, she said she no longer want it, then I said “not for you, for myself” she stared at me for seconds but finally she went there with me anyway.
When she noticed that I got 2 cones, she was a bit happier, I can tell from her face, but still a bit angry, I tired to ask her to take a selfie together but she just rejected, ended up I could only take a shot of our cones. It’s better than she kept angering on me.
Just no idea how stupid was I to lost my temper on her on such tedious thing, if I knew that we were going to separate for 2 years due to the pandemic, I would never do such stupid thing to her, NEVER.
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I think my take away from this is that people should disconnect from everything else when interacting with people in real life. I often bring up the fact that I agree with people who think the metaverse is more a point in time than a virtual world. A time where people are spending more of their lives dealing/interacting/caring about a meagre world separated from the physical one they inhabit.
It doesn't take much to notice that people are so enamoured by their experiences in various non physical planes that their attention is almost entirely directed there instead of the "right here, right now."
Perhaps confirming that the metaverse is already here, and everybody is subconsciously in it already.
I personally can't stand it and demand that when I am with anyone in real life, that we put our phones away, and never take a moment to care for it. The problem with the world though, is that with more and more people demanding goods and services in "the metaverse", more people need to spend time greasing the cogs, serving the metaverse overlord machines to keep everyone happy. It's a self fulfilling prophecy.
Finally, I think that disputes are better earlier rather than later. It's easier to kill a monster when it is small.
Well, I can't say she's wrong when I think about it now, it's about different point of view, it's their normal practice in her company to give the other a phone call while they are off. Her point is that I never think about her, she expected I can understand her situation as she was working there for nearly 8 years. She went angry because I acted like I don't care how does she think.
Making a phone call is in the real life section for her I guess, it's different to the internet, so she doesn't think there's any problem.
Fortunately the argue was subsided in short time, otherwise it was going to be worse.
I think phone calls are included as well. But the point is more about disconnecting and then connecting with your partner or whoever you're spending time with.
Being "on call" is a savage situation I'd rather not have to contend with, but one which is pervasive in nearly all "lines" of work. People should have true times to themselves and not be in covert servitude outside of work.
Our arguments are much worse now, like once a month something. After both of us working home, maybe not much private space anymore, we have more conflicts.
Another problem with prolonged isolation with little outside interactions.
This situation applied to my mom and me, 相見好, 同住難.
We never argue that often before the pandemic, I used to stay one two days in HK a week, now I stay in HK everyday since the pandemic, there's much more conflict between my mom and I now. Of course I won't piss her off on purpose, but sometimes she still try to start the brawl with me on very very very tedious thing
I would agree. I also have a similar relationship with my mother. Pleasant in small doses, insufferable when prolonged.
I was much relief when I back Shenzhen from end of June to end of Aug (including isolation at hotel), my emotion is kinda unstable now, even there's no argue with her, I feel annoying when she keeps muttering at home, of course I can't compliant her upon this issue, she has right to do so, just feel very bad to myself when you realized that she can keep muttering for 2 3 hours and never stop
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Thanks
我觉得主要你们分开，所以就只剩下思念了😏
Probably