Relatives from father's side are Us*less.....this one is a popular quote.
But this is what makes them useless.
Our Nigerian Ladies 70% do not like their husband's relatives after marriage.
They would bring their siblings and if their husband's relatives come over...you would hear stuff like
our food will soon finish ohh
Hunny ur brother is finishing the milk
Hunny your brother is chasing the house girl
Hunny your brother is a thief
Hunny your brother slapped me because, I begged him to wash the plate
Hunny your brother use to check out my behind whenever I walk past him
Hunny your sister stole my pant and bra
Hunny your sister used to pray a lot, it's like she has a demon attack.
Hunny your mother will come after my mother has gone, so we can have space for her and treat her fine
Hunny that your elderly bro is a witch, I use to see him in my dream, he wants to kill me because I am here to take you away from his bondage.
Soon the love for his wife makes him see his brothers and sisters as evil...he starts treating them badly.
Soon they would understand they aren't welcomed in their brother's house and stop coming.
The children will grow only to be close to their mother's people because, these are the only ones who now visit...
20 years later you would need help, then you remember daddy has a brother, you forget he also has his struggle...you call outta the blues and he gives an excuse for not having any spare money for you...
You come here and say
" Relatives from dads side are useless"
A few years more your brother marries and the wife shuts you and other siblings off your brother's life, disbelief hits you...and you want your brother back...
So you and her fight dirty always because, the brother you grew up with is now acting like he is under a love spell...
So one day she filled his ear with complains about you, and tells him how you have been attacking her in her dreams..she hits herself on purpose and shows hubby the marks as marks she got in an encounter with you in her last night dream.
Your brother is enraged...he picks up his phone and call you, he is sounding bitter, his voice is breaking...he drops the bomb on you
Why are you a witch?
Why do you want to kill my wife?
You have attacked her physically now you attack her spiritually....
she is the mother of my children and she is my wife, the only reason I am not over there beating you up, is that you are my sister....but next time would be a different story WITCH !!
The call end...and you want to blame God or is it the day you introduced your brother to her, she use to be your best friend and you didn't know what you did wrong...but you choose to ignore and accept defeat for life.
Days pass by and weeks evade fast into months until years start counting as if it was a ticking clock.
Your brother would have a child by now and you are in your husband's house too...once in a while both of you talk and you say hello to your nephew (his son)
The bond isn't there anymore and his kids won't visit and spend a week, they won't even eat your food...but between you and God, you are an Angel.
One day your nephew gets into the university...he calls you for help...you tell him you haven't even paid the fees of your children, you talk to him in white papers without any blunt....and he prays for things to get better for you.
5min later he comes to the blue app and posts...
WHY ARE RELATIVES FROM MY DAD'S SIDE USELESS.
Finally we all would be called Relatives from the fathers side.
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You make a really good point, and this problem is something that as been going on for long and it doesn't seem to have solution, which is distroying alot of us.
I pray one day we will realize how foolish we have been
Finally someone is telling the truth, may God help us
Amen