Greetings, at home I have a 4 year old little boy who is in his independence stage, this is truly magnificent because although it pains me to accept it my son is growing and forming his own character, something that causes me mixed feelings because until a little over 10 months ago I still gave him his mother's milk and now my little boy has been escaping from my arms, and on the other hand I feel proud of the growth of my little boy. At this point in my life as a mom I feel proud because both my son and I have managed to overcome each stage of motherhood and I as a mother have learned to be more patient and give lots of love, but I also set limits when the situation warrants it.
Saludos, en casa tengo un niño pequeño de 4 años de edad que está en su etapa de independencia, esto es verdaderamente magnífico porque aunque me duela aceptarlo mi hijo va creciendo y formando su propio carácter, cosa que me causa sentimientos encontrados porque hasta hace poco más 10 meses aún le daba su leche materna y ahora mi pequeño se ha estado escapando de mis brazos, y por otro lado me siento orgullosa del crecimiento de mi pequeño. En este punto de mi vida como mamá me siento orgullosa porque tanto mi hijo como yo hemos logrado superar cada etapa de la maternidad y yo como madre he aprendido a ser más paciente y dar mucho amor, pero también pongo límites cuando la situación lo amerita.
My son has been growing up kind of fast, and there are places where he does not want to be taken by the hands, and it is at that moment where we enter into debate and it is precisely because my son still does not understand the danger that exists in the street, and to tell the truth no child fully understands about the dangers that exist in the street, and I as a mom I worry because obviously I must take care and protect my son. There comes a time when talking to him is no longer enough, because while I see the danger, my son visualizes his situation of independence and I understand it perfectly, stop taking my hand is not a characteristic of stubbornness or rebellion, but rather to achieve their autonomy, then I must place at that time limits and monitor closely while he walks beside me, because even if he does not take my hands, he must always walk beside me.
Mi hijo ha estado creciendo como que muy rápido, y existen lugares donde el no desea que lo tomen de las manos, y es en ese momento donde entramos en debate y es precisamente porque aún mi hijo no comprende el peligro que hay en la calle, y a decir verdad ningún niño comprende del todo sobre los peligros que existen en la calle, y yo como mamá me preocupo porque obviamente debo cuidar y proteger a mi hijo. Llega un momento donde hablarle ya no es suficiente, porque mientras yo veo el peligro, mi hijo visualiza su situación de independencia y lo comprendo perfectamente, dejar de tomar mi mano no es una característica de terquedad o rebeldía, sino más bien de lograr su autonomía, entonces debo colocar en ese momento límites y monitorearlo de cerca mientras el camina a mi lado, porque así no me tome de las manos, siempre debe ir caminado a mi lado.
It may happen that at some point my son wants to do an activity different from what we do routinely, he wants to establish his own routines in his own way when there are homework to be done at home. And I have talked to him countless times about his duties and rights, and I even made a mind map to explain to my son that he has the right to play but his duty after playing is to pick up and put away his toys, that he has the right to eat but his duty is to pick up his plate from the table and take it to the dishwasher, that he has the right to study and his duty is to do the homework and activities that are planned at home and at school, and so I have managed to be heard. However, there are days where he wants to skip his homework and that is when I set limits, a "NO" I want to do it on his part, comes back from me a "YES" you must do it and what if there is no middle ground.
Puede ser que en un momento mi hijo desee realizar una actividad diferente a la que hacemos rutinariamente, el quiere establecer sus propias rutinas a su manera cuando existen deberes que debe hacer en casa. Y ojo que he hablado infinidades de veces con él sobre sus deberes y derechos, y le hice hasta un mapa mental para explicarle a mi hijo que el tiene derecho a jugar pero su deber luego de jugar es recoger y guardar sus juguetes, que el tiene derecho a alimentarse pero que su deber es recoger su plato de la mesa y llevarlo hasta el lavaplatos, que tiene derecho a estudiar y su deber es hacer las tareas y actividades que se planifiquen en casa y en el colegio, y así he conseguido ser escuchada. Sin embrago, hay días dónde el se quiere saltar sus deberes y es entonces donde pongo límites, a un "NO" quiero hacerlo de su parte, viene de regreso de mi parte un "SI" debes hacerlo y lo que si no hay es puntos medios.
Teaching from love sometimes puts me in the position of being a "wicked" mother, so to speak, and I have also earned that name when I correct, guide and motivate my little boy to fulfill his daily activities. At the end of the day, I am raising a man with values who will have to face society on his own, and it is up to my job as a mother, as well as my husband's job as a father, to set limits that will allow our son to understand that human beings must adapt to the rules and know how to handle their feelings and emotions above all else. That is why as a mother I give love and also set limits inside and outside the home.
Enseñar desde el amor a veces me coloca en la situación de ser una madre "malvada" por así decirlo, y también me he ganado ese nombre en el momento que corrijo, encaminó y motivo a mi pequeño para cumpla con sus actividades del día. Al fin y al cabo, estoy educando a un hombre con valores que deberá enfrentarse completamente solo a la sociedad, y depende de mi labor como mamá, así como de la labor de papá de mi esposo, marcar límites que le permita comprender a nuestro hijo que el ser humano debe adaptarse a las normas y saber manejar sus sentimientos y emociones ante todo. Es por ello que como madre doy amor y también coloco límites dentro y fuera de casa.
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Nice post 👌💞
The most important thing in raising children is to love them, especially until the age of 7 years, keep them close to you and keep loving them.
Always love them my friend @niazi5352, the key is that because it is from love that as parents we must set parameters at home so that our children understand that everything has a limit. Greetings 💕👋.
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You have written a very good article. By giving children a free environment, their personality can be developed, but their checks and balances are also necessary so that they remain in your eyes and develop their own personality by maintaining your independent abilities.
Truly my friend @suratkhan786, the task is to educate in such a way that the child manages to understand that he/she must recognize and respect the rules in order to preserve his/her physical and emotional well-being. Greetings friend, thank you very much for your valuable comment.
My pleasure dear. Thanks for your kind words
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Setting limits help them to understand what's good and what's bad, teaching them how to make good choices, grow stronger and smarter. Have a good day 😍
That's right, my friend @gretelarmfeg . As moms it is important to teach children that there is good and bad, as well as rules and norms that they must respect and know to preserve their physical and emotional integrity beyond they are experiencing their growth as independent beings. A hug friend.
Absolutely true my friend @aksurevm89 and even though they might feel tough sometimes, we're just helping them to become a better person 😇 Hugs 😊
Exactly, my friend @gretelarmfeg . We help them to be better people, a hug 🤗💕.
Hugs to you 😍 Have a great day ahead 😊
Entendí totalmente tu punto, de verdad que no es nada fácil criar a un pequeño ser humano en su etapa de crecimiento, pero sin duda lo estás haciendo muy bien, así debe ser, poniendo límites y explicándole bien las cosas. Bendiciones amiga
Gracias amiga @yoselindiaz, es una tarea como bien dices nada fácil, los encontronazos por diferencias de pensamiento siempre estarán presentes, pero es importante educar con el debido respeto para que el niño comprenda que existen reglas y normas sociales que se deben cumplir para vivir en armonía.