Curly hair, an insecurity

[alexa.art]

Hoy quiero hablar un poco de una de las mayores inseguridades que he tenido toda mi vida y que poco a poco estoy aceptando, creo que el ser humano nunca esta satisfecho con nada, si nacemos con un cabello oscuro queremos uno claro, si somos altos queremos ser mas bajos, si somos bajos queremos ser más altos, nos quejamos de algunos de nuestros rasgos que al final solo son inseguridades que las demás personas siembran en nosotros, yo jamás me he sentido satisfecha con mi cuerpo, siempre que logro sentirme bien con algo termino dándome cuenta de algo mas que falta o alguien mas me lo hace ver, algo que envidio de estas generaciones nuevas es que en este momento de la vida hay más aceptación a ciertas cosas que se criticaban cuando yo era pequeña, mi cabello siempre fue mi peor enemigo y curiosamente ahora esta de “moda” y ya se ve normal llevar el cabello rizado, aunque sigue habiendo una pequeña parte de personas que siguen comentando sobre el físico de otros.

Today I want to talk a little bit about one of the biggest insecurities that I have had all my life and that little by little I am accepting, I believe that the human being is never satisfied with anything, if we are born with dark hair we want a light one, if we are tall we want to be shorter, if we are short we want to be taller, we complain about some of our features that in the end are only insecurities that other people sow in us, I have never felt satisfied with my body, whenever I manage to feel good with something I end up realizing something else that is missing or someone else makes me see it, something I envy of these new generations is that at this time of life there is more acceptance of certain things that were criticized when I was little, my hair was always my worst enemy and curiously now it is “fashionable” and it is normal to wear curly hair, although there is still a small part of people who continue commenting on the physique of others.

Cuando era una niña solía no tomarle mucha importancia a eso, mi mama siempre me peinaba muy bonito y aunque eran peinados que me hacían doler la cabeza no pensaba mucho en mi cabello jaja, durante mi proceso de crecimiento muchas cosas cambiaron en mí, me volví más robusta, mi cabello era más rebelde y solo se me ocurría atarlo y peinarlo con mucho gel para que no se moviera, eso provocó una reacción negativa en mi etapa de liceo, sumándole que yo era una persona totalmente aislada de todos, tímida e introvertida, siempre se burlaban de mi cabello y algunas veces quise estilizarlo mejor para no recibir esos comentarios que a esa etapa de mi vida me hacían mucho daño, aun asi seguían haciéndome sentir mal.

When I was a little girl I used to not take much importance to that, my mom always did my hair very nice and although they were hairstyles that made my head hurt I didn't think much about my hair haha, during my growing process many things changed in me, I became more robust, my hair was more rebellious and I only thought of tying it and combing it with a lot of gel so it wouldn't move, that caused a negative reaction in my high school years, adding that I was a totally isolated person, shy and introverted, they always made fun of my hair and sometimes I wanted to style it better to not receive those comments that at that stage of my life hurt me a lot, even so they continued to make me feel bad.

Por eso en mis últimos dos años de liceo pude comprar una plancha de cabello, en ese momento fue lo mejor que me pudo pasar en la vida, por fin tenia un cabello liso y hermoso, las personas me decían halagos y sentía la aprobación de los demás, aunque eso no quita que aun asi mi etapa de liceo fue muy dura, si tuviera que volverla a vivir lo rechazaría pues estaba rodeada de gente muy mala que me hicieron la vida imposible, sin embargo, estaba feliz con mi cabello, por fin me sentía bien con el, el único problema era que no podía sudar demasiado, ni mojarme con lluvia, además de eso plancharlo muy seguido después de cada lavada, cosa que en su momento no le tome importancia pero después de un tiempo uno puede notar el cambio en la textura del cabello, como se va quemando poco a poco.

That's why in my last two years of high school I could buy a straightening iron, at that time it was the best thing that could happen to me in life, I finally had a straight and beautiful hair, people told me compliments and I felt the approval of others, although that does not take away that even so my high school stage was very hard, if I had to live it again I would reject it because I was surrounded by very bad people who made my life impossible, However, I was happy with my hair, I finally felt good with it, the only problem was that I could not sweat too much, or get wet with rain, besides that straightening it very often after each wash, something that at the time I did not take importance but after a while you can notice the change in the texture of the hair, as it burns little by little.

Continue planchando mi cabello todos estos años, aun lo hago pero en este momento he aprendido a no dañarlo tanto usando protector térmico, últimamente me he sentido bien con mi cabello, he aprendido a aceptarlo aunque sigo prefiriendo el cabello liso, a veces esta bien sentirse libre, no tener la preocupación de que se me dañara el cabello si se me moja, además he conseguido productos que me ayudan a darle un poco mas de forma, poco a poco me ha ido gustando llevar mi cabello natural, toda la vida viví con ese pensamiento de que el cabello rizado no era bonito, no era elegante… Un completo rechazo por culpa de la sociedad, de las personas que solo se encargan de destruir tu autoestima, es difícil aceptarse uno mismo sabiendo que hay cosas que no te gustan pero es peor cuando hay gente hablando de ti y como te ves.

Continue straightening my hair all these years, I still do it but at this moment I have learned not to damage it so much using thermal protector, lately I have felt good with my hair, I have learned to accept it although I still prefer straight hair, sometimes it is good to feel free, not having the worry that my hair will be damaged if it gets wet, also I have gotten products that help me to give it a little more shape, little by little I have been liking to wear my natural hair, all my life I lived with that thought that curly hair was not pretty, it was not elegant....
A complete rejection because of society, people who are only responsible for destroying your self-esteem, it is difficult to accept yourself knowing that there are things you do not like but it is worse when people are talking about you and how you look.

Me encanta usar el cabello de diferentes formas y seguiré alisándolo de vez en cuando, pero la mayoría del tiempo lo llevare al natural, realmente es mucho más cómodo y para nada complicado, me parece muy chistoso como últimamente he visto que esta muy de moda tener el cabello rizado cuando antes era completamente rechazado (al menos en mi realidad y mi vida) Son cosas que parecen insignificantes pero que realmente dañan mucho tu perspectiva del mundo, por eso siempre debemos cuidar lo que decimos con los demás.

I love to wear my hair in different ways and I will continue to straighten it from time to time, but most of the time I will wear it natural, it really is much more comfortable and not complicated at all, I find it very funny how lately I have seen that it is very fashionable to have curly hair when before it was completely rejected (at least in my reality and my life).
These are things that seem insignificant but they really damage your perspective of the world, that's why we should always take care of what we say with others.

Comments

[emanate-artworx]

Good for you for becoming more comfortable with your natural hair. 😊 I empathize with your struggle, as I also have naturally curly hair. We used to fight a lot, but we have learned to get along ➰️➰️💁‍♀️.

[alexa.art]

Aww so nice! yep, sometimes this hair gets very difficult to manage 😅

[fijimermaid]

Your hair looks great @alexa.art :)

[alexa.art]

Thank you very much @fijimermaid 🥰