Since I quit because I couldn't keep up with PMMA's probationary month, I've felt like I've been "left behind" because my batch mates or even just my classmates are continuing their college classes while I don't. It was difficult for me to believe that I wouldn't be able to graduate with them in the same year. Even though I try to think positively, I can't seem to break free.
But things began to shift after I was introduced to cryptocurrency and this pandemic arrived. Depression, class discussions, and death announcements were all around me, and it became the catalyst for me to return to that sensation of being "left behind."
So, in this article, I'd like to discuss that sensation of being left behind, as well as what I did to cope and handle that emotional agony. And I hope that these things would be of assistance to you anytime you feel left behind.
Starting with...
Stop comparing yourself to others
It's a lot simpler to say than it is to do.
Colonel Sanders created KFC when he was 65 years old, did you know? Did you know that Samuel L Jackson did not get his major acting jobs until he was 40 years old?
What those two persons teach us is that everyone matures and peaks at different times in their lives. A man directly above us has various goals for each of us, and you will succeed one day as well like these two person. You'll be astonished to learn that few people learn this until they're considerably older. And I'm pleased I took it earlier because I wouldn't have realized it if I hadn't experienced this feeling of being left behind.
You can understand what I mean when I say that everyone matures and peaks at various periods. What this means for you is that you must let go of the notion that life follows a linear pattern of progression because, sadly, it does not. And with that, I'll go on to the following topic. That is, you must stop comparing yourself to others since the people you are comparing yourself to lead quite different lifestyles than you. They've had a variety of experiences. They were exposed to a variety of experiences. Just for example, some people are so good in trading or speculating and you're not. That's because they were exposed to a different experience that made them learn a lot of things about trading or speculating. That's not just the same on you.
And another one for example is, I was exposed to PMMA's arduous training while my classmates aren't. I failed and they didn't so that's why they were able to continue their classes because they took a different track. I learned to accept that truth. We have to realize that every person on this earth has been dealt a different hand in life, and some are sadly better than others.
However, rather than comparing yourself to others, you must make do with what you have. Learn to admire and be glad for the people in your life who represent your definition of success, but don't become envious of them because if you do, you'll begin to doubt your own achievements. You'll begin to believe that your achievements aren't really achievements at all. And it's only because of this that you'll begin to create a toxic environment within your own head, and you'll become your own worst enemy. Allow their achievements to have no bearing on the enormity of your own.
Don't ignore your feelings
Never act as though your feelings of being left behind are incorrect. Rather of running away from the sense of being left behind or not knowing why we're feeling left behind, we're going to try to understand why we are feeling this way. You must change your perspective and admit, "Yes, I am feeling left behind." Just like I did. You have to accept that, and accepting that amount of vulnerability is challenging.
But here's the thing: recognizing who you are and your own feelings is the point. Because if you pretend that your feelings don't exist or that they don't matter to anyone, you'll get better at disguising your tears behind that beautiful smile of yours that everybody loves to watch.
What I'm getting at is that your feelings are important. And if you embrace your current state of mind and feeling, you'll begin to grasp who you are, and you'll be able to better understand and control your emotions in the future. I understand that admitting that level of vulnerability is difficult since it makes you feel weak and volatile, but the key is to get out of your head of society's expectations of you to not. Once you've accepted that such feelings exist, you can proceed to take sensible steps to resolve the issues.
Accept and embrace your feelings. It's understandable if you feel left behind. It's only part of our lives. It is there to strengthen us and make us better people. There has never been a problem in the world whose main goal is to destroy people. Even Jam Magno is there to put Rabiya to the test and strengthen her. You're probably aware of what I'm talking about. 😊
Seek out emotional support with the people you trust
When you finally talk to someone you trust about your sentiments, like truly opening up about your sentiments, the scenario, the problems, and the emotional anguish you're experiencing, it goes a long way toward getting it out of your system. And for someone to pay attention to that chaos and your feelings is something that we really need, I'm telling you, remember I said your feelings are important. So, you know, to actually absorb that and listen to that, and for them to respond, you need to talk to someone who you trust. Someone who genuinely wants to sit down and talk to you and is concerned about your well-being.
So, think about the people you trust, whether they are friends, family, or even a teacher. Look for someone you can confide in and who you feel comfortable telling about your troubles since it goes a long way once it's out of your system. I'm telling you, it feels so amazing when you meet someone, or perhaps a group of people, or a community, who understands your sorrow.
Conclusion
I hope that by writing this article, I was able to provide you some emotional support as well as practical advise, because those are the things that genuinely helped me. To be honest, I still feel a little bit left behind, but not because of my classmates continuing their classes or college life, but because of some of our colleagues here who have been able to profit from market trading or, for example, from airdrops. But because the impact isn't particularly strong, I merely remind myself that I, too, should be grateful for the many invisible blessings in my life. That's my secret, being grateful during ungrateful situations.
This is Carlosar, I love you all and please look after yourself and keep in mind that there are individuals that care about you.
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